If you hook up and have sex with a friend but later on they say they don't want to do it anymore, what does it mean?

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Hi all. This happened to me. So, does this mean she's lost interest in me? She said she still wants to be friends. The sex was great and I actually miss it as I was hoping to have a lot more of it with her in a committed, stable, dating, long-term relationship with her. I just still think about her often and can't get her off my mind because she's my type of woman. Should I just stay friends with her, move on and just stay occasionally in contact with her to see how both our lives are going? I'm just worried another guy may come along in her life eventually and how I won't know how to emotionally cope with it and feeling rejected. She has been gradually acting more distant towards me, such as taking a day or two days just to respond back to one of my text messages. We're both single with no kids and about 30 by the way. Has this ever happened to you? What does it mean? Thanks.

Telling It Like It Is · Answer

I've had experience with this firsthand and know that she's probably thinking that she wanted more than sex and you haven't expressed that to her strongly enough to pursue anything.
You never mention in your post anything you like or love about her on a relationship level - just a sexual one! Missing sex with her doesn't mean you miss HER, you miss IT.
She might have found someone who emotionally and mentally fulfills her - and if you guys agreed just to have sex, she probably figures, that's all it was going to be - a hook up and nothing more.
I kept my options open while in this situation and the guy kept saying why am I turning him down...well, when a woman wants more than a hook-up, they're not going to be there when you haven't shown or expressed you want more.
When or how did you discuss pursuing a long-term relationship?? If this is something you seriously spoke to her about and she said she doesn't feel the same way, then there's your answer. But if you've just been getting laid with her, that's all she thinks of you.

? · Answer

It means you committed sacrilege regarding friendship similar to having hook ups with a co-worker. Worse, she may have regrets because she expected more from you. Better to let everything rest and if she slowly drifts away, accept it and go on your way. If you continue to pursue, you'll just piss her off.

Anonymous · Answer

They just want sex

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If you hook up and have sex with a friend but later on they say they don't want to do it anymore, what does it mean?

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