How can I deal with my daughters stuck up behavior?

Continue talking to her about her actions. Ask her how she's different to the kids at school. See if she knows why they are saying that. If her attitude continues to go the way you don't want you may have to remove her from the cheer team (as a last resort), but you cannot allow her to become stuck up-as you seem to have a valid problem with that behavior. You can always discipline her in other ways whenever she displays that behavior (grounding, timeout, etc). Try to get her to see how her actions are perceived by others. Maybe video her and let her see what she's doing. Sometimes people don't fully understand their actions, especially pre-teens, until they see it first hand.

Duke

School Psych

Call Child Protective Services in your state and ask EXACTLY what you as a parent are required to provide by law for your child. This will come back as 1 clean pair of underwear per day, fruits and veggies, a clean set of clothes everyday, 1 pillow and 1 blanket, access to a toilet and 1 shower every other day. Take away everything else. You are not required to have your child leave their room too as long as they are being provided these requirements. So, strip her room, give her exactly what she needs, and create it so that her door can only be locked from outside her room and give her time to reflect on what is actually important in this world and show her that some people don;t have much. It will work.

I could bet it wouldn't be much more than 48 hours before she's begging for things to go back to normal. And she should have a much better appreciation for the privileges that she has.

In her world this is a competition and you are loosing. Especially if you are a single mom. For young teens, ANYONE with more life experience is an authority. PLUS "it takes a village". With that being said, you have two things against you.

I know that it is hard there are just some things that you have to let happen. She joined the cheer team because she needed to be a part of something that she could relate to. That's the reason that they have organized groups and sports in school. Also the reason why there is a middle school for 6th through 8th graders. Because they are going through hormonal and personality changes that elementary kids are not yet dealing with yet have gotten to the age where their hormones have leveled off enough for them to make rational decisions like high school students as opposed to emotional decisions. I have a 13 year old and all through middle school she has had to learn things about herself. She will get through it and so will your daughter. My daughter had that #awesomeness attitude. Thought that her actions were relevant. Used to hit, smack, and push people and camouflage it as a way to she affection(endearment). Things that she would do to her sister at home but with her peers at school for some reason she got away with the behavior.

So if this social inappropriateness is okay at school and her peers are doing it too, why should she stop. Especially if she is being praised for it. But as I said, it will pass. Reprimand her for like behavior at home and when her behavior starts affecting her school work. other that that, leave silliness alone.

let this be a life lesson that she needs to learn.

Just keep having talks with her never forgot to let her know she is very loved and beautiful. Support and navigation is what she needs right now with her hormones flaring things may get a little blurry for her. Just try and help her see things clearly. If her bad behavior continues try using a little more stern approach with the tactic of if she isn't going to have respect for others then she can't be in any type of competitive activities. Try not to let it get that far we want our children to be involved with others as much as possible

I hope that helps

When I joined a cheer squad when I was younger I was a bi***. It's only average I would teach her more about the real world and morals though. The world really started dragging me down when I realized how rude I'd been. Don't let the same happen to her. It would honestly be terrible to see the same happen to her. Try to get her into other things, when I started getting into art, music, and history I hated cheerleading. Just try to open more options and show her different ways and styles of doing things!

Not always you can act. Sometime you have to look after her from a certain distance. When our children grow up, they become independent and they want to prove it. Don’t react against her. Only show love and respect. A bit of silence is good for now. She will come near to you when she feels respected in her new manners. Tell her that you will ever love her even if she is different. Tell her that when she is in need, you are there to listen. But, don’t let her hurting herself. Only when danger is there, you should stop her bad manners! I hope being clear with my poor English. You are always her Mom. Daughters are always coming back!

Tell her to go fight in Mortal Kombat and see if she survives LOL

But seriously, if she's not listening to you, start taking stuff away, especially stuff like electronics. And if she still doesn't listen to you, either slap her (as she is your daughter) and show her who's in charge and who's paying the bills around here or threaten to take her off the cheerleading team, that'll get to her. That'll overall make you a good and disciplinary parent that wants best for your kid. And don't worry, she'll understand why you did all of this when she matures into a young adult one day....and she'll thank you for making her a better person.

I'm a 15 year old so even thought I'm a bit older than her, I know what she's going through.

Get out your belt and go to town on her! She clearly lacks discipline! I'd also take her to the cheer team and embarrass her in front of them. She needs to be brought back to planet Earth. The humility will help bring her down! Is she a bit spoiled as well? Take away all her gadgets, electronics, and anything else expensive. Until she behaves, all she needs is food, water, and shelter. Good luck!

Stop feeding her, Don't wash her clothes, don't drive her to school or do anything for her. Don't have food in the house, eat out yourself, wait one or two weeks.

You need to get used to your daughter and her new attitude. You have 10 years of this to endure

Simplest and most effective way to communicate a child's behavior is wrong is to spank them. They'll get it, trust me. Don't physically hurt them, just a firm slap will let them know they did wrong without hurting them.