Daughter, husband and Grandson moving to west coast......how to feel? Part of me feels this is a mistake.?

I think your fears are reasonable and not unfounded, given the uncertainty associated with such crucial life-changing decisions that they are about to make. There are times when people think the grass is greener on the other side. But we all know that its not always the case. I guess your son-in-law is desperate to move because he misses his family. But the people he's keen to see might not have the same desire or inclination to be close to him, once he settles down in the same town with them. It would be difficult to talk him out of it at this stage. Because it would seem as if you're interfering in their private lives.

All the same, I think you should have a mature adult conversation with them, and encourage them to look at the pros and cons of each location. If they still insist that they'll want to move, then respect their decision and see them off with a happy attitude and genuine appreciation for their boldness. The question of whether life will be better on the other side remains to be seen.

On your part, try to take concrete steps towards enhancing your social life. You could join a society or club associated with your hobbies, or take on an additional part-time job. That way, they'll not leave a big gap in your life, and you'll also have something to keep you busy and focused. Its a shame that they are taking your grandson away. But you must remember that he's their son after all, despite your strong emotional attachment to the boy. Continue to love and support them, irrespective of their decision.

I hope this helps.

Good luck!

I understand your concerns for them. I also inderstand that you are losing out of experiences with them, if this happens. Having moved a few times in my life and away from my family, i can say it is a mixed bag. You make new friends and experence things that the new place has to offer that you wouldnt have experiencd otherwise. You miss out on experiences and holidays with friends and family that you left behind. Your vacation time isnt spent on a beach...most of your vacation tme is burned going back to see friends and family. When emergency situations with relatives nd friends happen back home, you are torn because you want to be there, but you have responsibilities to your employer and family and home where you are. I dont believe in mistakes. Everything is a learning experience.

It is a big step they are taking and I bet they are having some qualms, too, but they are seeking a place which will work out for all of them together. Perhaps this move is a step in the right direction, since they are going to a region he already knows.

It is hard to see people we love working out their lives by trial and error, yet we must do what you are doing, wish them well and keep in touch as best you can.

Two adults well into their 30's with a child get to do whatever the heck they want. You don't have to support it financially, emotionally, physically because, bottom line, it's their business. Pray for them and wish them well and treat them like adults.

Airplanes fly back and forth. Sometimes of year they are quite reasonable. Much more reasonable for you to go visit in 8 months than to expect the family to fly out and visit you.

It's okay to miss people. Very human. It's okay.

if you dont want to be away from your grandson maybe you should move with them