How should I handle this ?

Wow. My husband, when he CAN walk, walks with a lurch, has terrible balance, and makes all around him fill with concern. He uses two sticks. He can't get up from a movie seat without rolling onto the floor and rocking himself ... often takes 8 minutes or so.. to a point where he can steady himself and pull himself up. People ALWAYS try to help but he needs to be self reliant and his shoulders can't handle the pulling that strangers try to do to "solve" the situation. Some movie theaters have their "wheelchair" spaces on the front row where it's worthless to sit.

I've been embarrassed too. I'm way over it now. My husband usually uses a chair out in public but sometimes he tries to leave the chair in the car. There is always some encounter or another with the public when he makes that choice.

I am extremely proud of my husband. I admire his spirit, his strength of character, his determination to push himself and to do everything he can. I think him a remarkable human being.

My advice to you is to "get over" your embarrassment that your husband has a funny walk. Invest in a few very nice canes/sticks (hiking sticks are the best) and confront yourself on why you are ashamed. Why are you ashamed?

He might have to leave you if he's to continue to live an active and productive life.

You don't need to tell anyone anything. If he stumbles/staggers, he stumbles/staggers. So what? If he's not causing a public disturbance no one will really care. There are plenty of handicapped people in the world. I have a knee issue that causes me to limp sometimes. The only people who really notice, are people with a similar issue who can relate.

If you're that unhappy in your marriage end it and move on. When you start thinking about how to "get even", you're in a bad place mentally and it's not going to end well.

You tell your husband you're embarrassed over his health condition and don't think that's emotionally abusive? You're wrong. I'm sure the people around you can tell he's not drunk based on the other ways he's acting. Your insecurity shouldn't be a reason to shame him over something he can't control. Fix that and then work on his spending.

People already know that honey. I would not encourage drinking. Maybe if you did not, he would follow suit, or maybe he needs rehab. Alanon would give you a good place to discuss his drinking effect on you.

My father had the same problem but I am nothing like you...I go in public with him and I don't care what others think personally I think it's more you than him with the problem.

I think he should leave your sorry behind and find a real woman who will be proud to be with him whether he is disabled or not.

See if you can sit down and talk about it. Maybe with a counselor

I'm beginning to see why your kids ran away from you the minute they could.

u re a very appalling person. if u hate him so much - get a job and get a divorce and do NOT go out in public together

He has an illness. Why do you have to make excuses for him? Just love him if you do. Accept him for who he is.