how do I deal with my mom ?

Give your kids up to the father and get a job and start paying child support to him. Instead of living off others like your mom and your ex, become independent. Grow up.

First thing, the husband need to be tattled on with a family services or some court group that works with child support. It's the law in the USA that he has to pay so he can serve time if he doesn't. Get the law involved. Then start moving forward with your life. You can't live in the past and you can't change the past so move on. Go out and get a job that you work when the kids are in school. There are lots of places that will work with single parents, even places like WalMart. Or get a waitress job if you don't have a college educaiton, and do it at a good restaurant that gives tips. You can practically support yourself on tips if you are a good waitress. Or give the military a try. Your mom can watch the kids and you can pay her while you are in basic and tech school since they pay you. That will help your mom out and then once you are settled in your base, take the kids with you and hire a babysitter for the times you are working that they are not in school. I know lots of girls that have accomplished that and do well, and some of them have even found soldiers and remarried. The object is that you need to stop feeling sorry and move on and feel good. That alone will give your mom a boost of hope for you and make it a much better environment for your children. Plus, all their medical is free in the military and so is yours so its a good way to go, and they will definitely get the child support from your husband to help you out.

The last thing you need to worry about is a social life or a boyfriend. You need to set up a plan to be out of your parents house within the next year. That means getting a job or a second job. It means getting some help from the county healthy services for your anger problems. Once you have a goal and are working toward it, you'll be surprised how much better you feel about yourself. Your parents will relax and be more happy too. Good luck.

Right now you need to realize that it is VERY hard to rent anything when you have two kids and two DOGS. I suggest you give the dogs to their Daddy. Give the dogs to Daddy.

Get a job. You've got built in babysitters. If you find a local church you can feel good about going to.. then go, regularly, and meet people and BABYSITTERS. When I was a young teen I babysat several+ days a week and the folks from church kept me hopping for years.

You are either resistant to your therapist or you simply need a different one for another reason. Please shop for another therapist. It may not have helped YET, or THIS one isn't helping you.. please, find another therapist and vote for your HEALTH and your TALENTS and your CAPABILITY. These are rough times but you are actually a young woman and have many, many chapters ahead.

Mom. Well. She's opened her home to you and your kids and TWO dogs? She's a saint. Keep that in mind. And get a job. It'll get you out of the house, give you NEW things to think about and learn and is likely to boost that ego of yours right up where it belongs. In the hands of a capable woman.

My boyfriend recently moved to another country, now he says he need time off to decide if he still loves me and if he wants to marry me.Till he doesn't figure it out, he doesn't wanna talk to me and in case he decides he cant, he wont call me. How long should i wait? how to get him back ??

u don't work and live with parents and children are half day at school and still u have no time to date? u re too busy? with what?

Punctuation. You should really look into it.

you can talk to your mother politely and give the respect