I don't get "butterflies" around my boyfriend? Is that ok?

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I was friends with my current boyfriend for a solid 5 months before we started dating. We've been dating for about a month now and it's great. He's the sweetest and kindest guy I've ever dated in my life. The only thing is that I don't get "butterflies" or that pump of adrenaline when I'm around him like I usually did around other guys. I never had that feeling around him. I feel very content around him though, and he makes me happy. Like, it feels right to be with him.

I'm just afraid that I don't love him to the same degree that he loves me. He's told me that he loves me, and I say I love him back, but deep down I don't feel like I'm being genuine. I don't know what to do! I really like him but I just don't have that spark. Does it come over time or should I just stop this relationship before it gets too far? Please help!

♠ Merlin ♠ · Answer

The first time i met my (now) husband, i got butterflies and felt like a complete idiot
25 years later, i still get butterflies when he walks into a room, he still takes my breath away

its not something that comes in time
its either there, or it isnt
but i dont think you can "measure" love or compatibility through butterflies
what IS worrying is, when you tell him you love him, you dont feel you are being genuine
that isnt a basis for  a lifelong relationship, 
so its up to you whether you want a "it is what it is for now" relationship
or are you looking for something more right now?

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