I seem to have stopped thinking about my life, myself, rather all I do is think about my work even when I come back from work.?

Experts on meditation will tell you that if you're hoping to find a switch in your mind that turns off unwanted thoughts, there's no such thing, BUT you can learn to be more focused on the thing you're doing at the moment, whether it be meditating or writing, and less distracted by thoughts you don't want. The New York Times reported an experiment in which students improved their test scores after a short course - only 2 weeks - in mindfulness. They said they were better able to focus on their work, without their minds being distracted by the clutter of useless thoughts.

Someone who sits every day and mindfully meditates will tell you that it doesn't turn off the thinking process and stop thoughts about the past and future. That's not how the mind works. If someone is just thinking about his breathing, his mind will naturally wander away from time to time, go off to a memory or whatever, because the mind won't stay fixed on one thing indefinitely. That's no problem. The thing is not to get involved with the thought. If a thought about your income tax occurs to you while you're meditating, and you think, "Ask Betty about that," that's OK, but don't start working on your taxes. Also, don't fight with thoughts. When you see your attention wandering, gently pull it back to you, like a little tug on the string of a toy balloon.

This works if you're meditating or if your writing. Don't fight with thoughts about work, just don't get involved with them. Remind yourself that you're at home, not at work, and let the thought go.

Mindfulness and other mind-body therapies are also really good for unwinding after work,

In January, 2014, Time magazine ran a cover story, "The Mindful Revolution," about Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction - the original and most popular mindfulness-based therapy program. MBSR is offered in clinics all over the country. If you don't want to go to a clinic, I suggest learning about PalouseMindfulness, an online version of MBSR that is recognized by universities and mental health professionals and is absolutely free.

Two psychiatrists, Richard Brown and Patricia Gerbarg, have published 6 papers on controlled breathing exercises and use them in their work. They talk about a 3-way approach to mental health - controlled breathing, slow body movement, and mindfulness. They have a book, The Healing Power of the Breath. The evidence suggests that this is an important advance in treating anxiety and depression. If you just breathe slowly, 5 breaths a minute, about 4 seconds inhale and 4 seconds exhale, for 20 minutes, that should make you feel better. They say that doing 20 minutes twice a day is an actual treatment for mood disorders.

There is some evidence that Tai Chi exercise helps children with ADHD. You can learn with one or two beginner's videos on YouTube.

I suggest starting with the MBSR Body Scan, which is very relaxing.

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