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Worried about male ex-friend who used to sexually harass me?

When I say "sexually harass", I mean someone I knew who kept talking about sex and other very personal stuff every time we met up or talked to each other. They also kept asking if I wanted to "do it" and other suggestive stuff. I'm not a slag and not at all interested in this berk, and he was really creeping me out so I blocked his number and blocked him on Facebook, and luckily I haven't heard from him since. I'll also make it clear I never gave in to him, and he never touched me or anything. I never see him in person anymore (thank god) but even though I've blocked him and he's out of my life, I've recently realised that this has had an scarring effect on me. I got a notification on FB saying "Do you know this person?" and it was HIM. I immediately deleted the notification, and now I'm really shaken up by the whole thing even though it was just a standard notification. I can't stop thinking about him either because I'm nervous about the whole thing. Also, I may see him at graduation this autumn and I'm actually scared to see him in case he tries to talk to me or do something. I'm also worried he might start spreading false rumours about me and then people at graduation won't have anything to do with me. My family are coming to graduation and know about this sex pest. Should I tell my tutor at uni about him so they know the situation? What should I do about my anxiousness about him? How can I move on from this?

Update:

I think he's tried this on with some other girls who did the same course as me at uni, and they must have dissed him too because he used to slag them off and tell me wild stories about them. I didn't believe him. He said one of the girls was bitchy but I always found her really nice and we're connected on LinkedIn as well, so I started getting suspicious about that story.

Update 2:

Quick update on my situation. I had my graduation in November. It was a fantastic day. I did see my ex-friend but I avoided him, and he didn't try to approach me either. However, a few weeks after my graduation he tried connecting to me via LinkedIn. I've ignored his connection request because I don't feel like he's changed and he'll only want to talk about his "problems" and sex again. I'm not going through all that again, no way. I'm much better off without him.

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  • 4 years ago
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    Tell your tutor at uni and they will be able to sort this out for you. If you have a Guidance Counsillor at uni, also tell them so this way you have more adults who have your back. Avoid him at all costs, don't even make eye contact with him -

    you could even get your parents to call up and explain the situatuion (just tell them he makes you feel uncomfortable) Hope youre okay =) and dont let it ruin your experience. Make friends and focus on them and yourself! ;*

  • Jay R
    Lv 7
    4 years ago

    If he has been a sex pest with you, he has been this with other people. Don't worry about your reputation, as it's his that's not worth a damn. Tell as many people as you can about him. You'll find that you have plenty of support in this matter.

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