Am I wrong for wanting to have fun and leave my boyfriend ? Please help?? I feel trapped?

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so I've been with my boyfriend for almost 9 years now. So practically all of my early 20's. (I'm not 30 yet) Anyway, he is a great guy, considerate and I do love him dearly. However, I feel like I am not doing much these days. Like he just got his feet together and is working 2 jobs like he wanted to make money and do what he loves which is handicapping. (Horses) anyway, we moved from the city to a rural town and there is nothing to do up here really, except for work..am I wrong for feeling this way? I feel guilty but i also don't want to look back and regret not living my life.... I already go back and forth to NY for a part time job and to see family but I know he doesnt like me being away, but when I'm in town there is nothing to do. I feel stuck. :( should I try to get a job in ny... also some more insight, I'm not trying to blame my boyfriend at all, so hopefully it isn't coming across that way. All he does is work now and we hardly ever go out and do things together and it doesnt help were in a small town where there isnt much to do. I have a friend in NYC who will help me get work even though yea I know I can get work here but I feel like there will be more opportunity out there to meet people and do things. Am I wrong for feeling this way? For wanting to have my fun?

Z · Accepted Answer

The whole essence of not being married is so that you are free to pursue other interests. You don't have to give excuses for wanting to be with other men, if your boyfriend really wanted you all to himself he should have put a ring on it. 
You will hate yourself if your boyfriend was to abruptly leave you for another woman. You would wish that you had never stayed faithful to him all these years. To avoid any regrets in the future, now's the time to explore unknown territory. You're not wrong, you're just smart.

Ana · Answer

If you want to cheat and have an open relationship then ask him if he’s open to do that

Patricia · Answer

Seems like you have out-grown the relationship.  I dont see why it is "wrong" to break up with someone.  You're not doing him any favors by sticking with him when you're not into the relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

You're selfish. You must decide if it's wrong or not to be selfish.

Brendon · Answer

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