What shall I say. I am not satisfied with his behaviour?

When I met him I knew he was going to move back to Spain. He wants to be close to his mom who is elderly. So we stayed friends. But over time we got closer. I was not willing to be intimate unless we'd try to keep each other after he moved, and am happy with let things unfold. Instead he struggled without a long term plan. We talked about how we could make it work and he decided to keep the job in Manchester and work from abroad. This way he can come to UK on a regular basis. So we started a relationship. After 2 3 months the day arrived. He left the UK last week and went on hol with his family, I went on hol with my friends. Then went to my home as my uncle is very ill and probably terminal. I let him know. I am not happy with the quality and degree of communication we have had since he left. We spoke maybe twice and as he doesn't keep the phone with him there is maybe a general text a day. No real communication. Since i told him that i was back home to visit my uncle he hasnt even called to ask how he is or i feel. I understand that he has very limited experience with women despite being 40+ but i am not happy about how distant he is.

Because intimacy for me was important, closing this relationship now leaves me with a sense of having been somehow violated and not respected. But I do want better interaction for him. I don't want phone texting every minute but I do expect communication and interest in each other's life. What should I say to him? Thankx