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Jenny asked in Beauty & StyleMakeup · 3 months ago

Boyfriend keeps pointing out my flaws?

Everytime we video chat he asks me questions about my face or skin. I have bad under eye circles naturally. So he was like “ have you always had your under eye circles like that” I said yeah sometimes they show more than other days. And then he asked about a pimple I had on my cheek. He asked what it was. So I said it’s a pimple. The other day he commented about my eyebrows. I don’t have much eyebrow hair because I was born like that so I fill them in a bit.  But the times we vídeo called I was not wearing makeup.  Idk I felt a bit insecure. And I told him but he said that he didn’t ask to make me feel bad. Do your boyfriends comment about your skin or imperfections? 

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  • Anonymous
    3 months ago

    If he is that critical of you he doesn't deserve to be your b/f. Have some respect for yourself. He will never get any better so find someone who likes you as a person not as an object to look good with. 

    What you need is a man who will always see you as you were when he first fell in love with you as if whatever state you are in is some kind of an illusion.

  • Lisa M
    Lv 4
    3 months ago

    Any guy who shames you is not boyfriend material. He should look at his own flaws first. I'm sure there are many I'd rather be alone than be criticized constantly. 

  • 3 months ago

    Time to dump that SOB. I would never put up with that. get out of this abusive relationship NOW

  • 3 months ago

    No, that's not normal, I've never had a boyfriend do that before. Does he still do it after you told him it made you feel bad?

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  • Dr. D
    Lv 7
    3 months ago

    Tell your boyfriend that you don't need his help in pointing out your flaws. When he does that it sends a message that you don't deserve to be loved. Tell him what you really need from him is positive reinforcement. You need him to make you feel attractive, confident, and loved. 

  • 3 months ago

    My ex kept poking me about my imperfections. Saying I had bad skin, dark circles, then said my surgical scars were ugly (I had 3 major surgeries around my stomach and the big scars did leave me feeling insecure)...he wasn't perfect himself and I wasn't happy to be put down constantly by someone who did not appreciate me. That's why he became my ex. A real man will love you regardless, he will find you beautiful regardless, and he will stand with you regardless. 

  • drip
    Lv 7
    3 months ago

    Yeah, that is not normal. You should not, so not need to wear make up to be pretty. You should not feel you need to wear make up every time he sees you.  

    I mean has he never seen you before?  He has never seen your eyebrows????   He never gets pimples? He has perfectly flawless skin? 

    If he isn’t asking why to make you feel bad then why the heck does he feel the need to say something about every aspect of your face when he sees you. Ask him that. 

  • 3 months ago

    My husband never did and still doesn't. He sometimes compliments, my skin, but not like how your BF is acting. Hope that helps, but all men are different!

  • .
    Lv 7
    3 months ago

    My husband only points things out, like scratches or something that he never noticed before, but no, he doesn't blatantly comment on every single pore, zit, or stray hair, never did. Only thing he does is make fun of my hairy legs when I don't shave, and it's just gentle razzing, nothing serious. 

    Tell him it makes you uncomfortable. Like, why the hell does he do this? Funnily enough, I had a friend that did this to me constantly. She would always point something out, in private AND public. She didn't care. Really started pissing me off, so I shouted at her one day to knock it off, keep it to herself unless I'm bleeding all over the place or REALLY stink or something, and how much it bothers me that she did it. Her family did it to each other all the time, so she saw nothing wrong with doing this to her friends or other people. It's one thing to say that I have food in my teeth or something in my hair, but she picked on me and others for every little thing. She finally saw the light, and while it's totally ok to be honest with someone about hygiene, it wasn't ok to tell me, in public, that I had a huge zit coming in on my nose. 

  • Anonymous
    3 months ago

    Show him your T I T S and he won't be as focused on your face.

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