I don’t want a wedding ?

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I am getting married, me and my fiancé have planned to just have a court or civil marriage and take a small trip. We want to save our savings to have a few months of savings for our new apartment. Costs are already adding in Los Angeles, CA. Most apartments are two months of rent to get in. Having a wedding would be nice but we can use that money as an emergency fund. However, family and friends want us to have a big fancy wedding? They get offended. What do you think of this?

? · Answer

So what if your family and friends want you to have a big wedding. It's YOUR life, YOUR marriage, YOUR decision.

It cracks me up that people listen to their family and friends and cater to the ideas of others instead of using their own brains.  Use yours.

T J · Answer

You know what is best for you. Go to court and get married. No one needs a big expensive wedding, its such a waste of money that is needed elsewhere.  Say noting more about the wedding. when you are reasy just go and do it your way, tell them nothing.

? · Answer

Weddings are a big scam anyway, there's covid about and there's nothing wrong with a court or civil marriage. I think smart by saving your money.

a · Answer

It's you life, and your choice and your beloved's.

BTW, you ARE having a wedding, which is when a lawyer or notary or judge solemnizes your vows. You just aren't inviting people.

? · Answer

Its your money and decision, not theirs. If any of them are willing to foot the bill, tell them, then of course, why not !

? · Answer

I had a house before getting married.  Finances in order, been saving for a wedding since i was 16,  7 years was long enough to be able to afford everything and have a little left over.

Andrew Smith · Answer

I have seen this one within the last fortnight.  Family and friends are irrelevant.  WHO are you marrying?  It is stupid to waste money on a big wedding and stupid people don't tend to have successful marriages.  PS I had a cheap church wedding and didn't take the trip.

Some Guy · Answer

Tell them it's because of covid. Covid is a good reason NOT to have a big wedding! 
You don't want a wedding with covid going around but love can't wait! 
There is a legitimate excuse you can to use to save face!

Not Really a Doctor · Answer

Good for you. Don't let them make you change your mind. Be sure to involve a few special family members but keep it as simple as you want it to be.

Do they want the big party or are they pushing for the religious ceremony? It is possible to have a wedding without the $20,000 dress and 250 guests at $20 a plate.

Helen · Answer

"However, family and friends want us to have a big fancy wedding?"
Not their wedding, not their choice.
If they want a fancy wedding, they'll have to make it their own!

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I don’t want a wedding ?

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