CaveMan

I love doing Squats and Deadlifts and progressively increasing the weight. Started with Stronglifts5x5 and now doing 5-3-1, I have been training this way since last year and like the improvements in size and strength.

Heavy lifts require the valsalva maneuveur for breathing to protect the spine amongst other things which is what I use for heavy lifts. Just read this causes the left ventricle to increase in size and density to be able to work with more force, over time.

So it made me wonder if this is actually harmful and cause heart problems later on?

I have a terrible habit of behaviour which is losing me the trust and respect of people who are in my life. Specially when it comes to women. One minute I'm funny and hilarious and next minute I'm offending her. Even with male friends, I can sense that they don't take me seriously and most likely share not so pleasant things about me behind my back.

Lately I ve been reading a dating book and it covers a lot of things such as personality, attitude, self confidence and the more I read it the more I realise my own blunders. It's almost unbearable to read and learn more. Anyone that much of a dating expert? Is this kind of feeling normal. I want to keep reading but it's difficult. I guess I can't "handle the truth ".

Ok here's the situation. I've been talking to this girl online and lately meeting her too. Met twice. She used to like me but is in a relationship now. I've been to visit her home and she was fine with that. But the last time I mentioned visiting her and hanging out she's telling me it not a good idea, cos of bf blah blah...she doesn't want to get too close to me and so on but is fine to hangout elsewhere...

I feel hurt. And I told it seems so sudden and unexpected. I feel she just trying to friend zone me maybe? Maybe She doesn't find me attractive enough to be with? Perhaps even finds me annoying?

What should I do? I want to stop talking to her for a few days and do other things to occupy my mind and show her I'm not needy and dependent on her. She tells me she needs to take a step back.. So I dunno what to do really or how to interpret it. What do you guys think?

Ladies, please help out, guys too. Thanks!!

So I know this girl from another state who is moving to my city next week. I knew when when she was single and we used to sexy and stuff. But now she doesn't want to cheat on her bf and doesn't want to sext and says it might make her actually do all that and cheat on her bf of 9months when she's hanging out with me. She has friends and some family here but I'm the only one she feels a bit close to. I really want to get in her pants but also not hurt her. She's a lady said she wants her bf but I still feel she could change her mind once she's here.

So here's where I need advise. What do you guys think I should do to get her but also not scare her away?

I am quite introverted and shy and feel awkward in groups and noticeably awkward in social events. But I want to come out of the shell and be more social.

Last few years I've convinced myself that I'm against the party lifestyle and have been studying/gym. But now I feel like I'm missing out on some thing.

Basically I want meet new people, network, meet girls, go on adventures. I just dunno how, dunno where to begin. dont know whether this is normal. I don't want to get to 40 and be that weird guy with no friends who still lives with his mum.

So any ideas? Anything I should read? Or something to do regularly or go to? Thanks in advance!

I'm 23 and my problem is I enjoy playing games in my free time. Only 2-3 hours a day. But I would rather play my favourite games in the safety of my home than go out all the time.

I know I'm not gaining anything from doing it besides being entertained so I need some advise curbing the habit and replacing it with more productive hobby such as reading.

Reading was something I used to do a lot but gaming took over. Now I wanna read more but I just don't have the will power to refrain from gaming and switch to reading just like that (tried for a few years now!) I've got tons of interesting books and I just feel terrible that I don't read them..

Thanks for any advise!

I bowl left arm orthodox spin. Finger spin. I can land the ball outside leg stump with some flight at a good length and right across a RH batsman just outside off stump. This is in the nets with a regular a leather cricket ball. Got a few ooohs and ahhhs the first few times I beat the outside edges and stuff in the nets with some club cricketers. I was wondering if this is unusual for the type of bowling I do and if I'm pretty average or better than your usual left arm finger spinner.

When I was in my late teens I found this girl online through a social networking site and got to know each other quite well online. She used to tell me some pretty personal and awful things in her life. I guess I was a good listener. The following year she contacted me again and came down interstate to stay for a visit with me.

Unfortunately things didn't go so smoothly. I felt uncomfortable spending so much time with someone I just met for the first time in real life. Also I wasn't particularly used to spending a lot of time with a girl at that point in time. She on the other hand has had quite a few boyfriends and stuff and I felt slightly intimidated in the bedroom. Also she smokes and drinks and our lifestyles are quite different. ( I don't smoke, social drinker, eats healthy, goes to the gym)

I didn't treat her as well as she probably expected, we were getting into arguments and it was quite bad at times and now when I look back I feel so much guilt and feel haunted by some of the memories even though its been a few years. We did however have good times too where we had a good laugh, enjoyed being around each other. But the bad things probably outweigh the good, I won't describe them here as they are embarrassing.

Anyway after she left I was in a bad way. I was depressed and had to be in hospital for a while as well. I've come a long way since and doing much better. About a year after I sent her a message. Anyway couple months later she contacted me again to come over saying this time might be better. I said no as I was going on holiday for a month. I kinda felt like she was trying to use me and perhaps my reply didn't sound so friendly. I even deleted her from my fb.

Lately though I have been thinking about her. Still feeling a lot of guilt over what happened a few years ago and I almost feel a second chance or something might make that feeling go away.

I was thinking of messaging her again... Should I? Should I walk away from it? And what should I say? I thought of asking if we could be friends again but that sounds desperate? If I shouldn't contact her, then how could a get away from the feelings of guilt? There is pretty much no one I feel comfortable talking about it with in person... Any advice?

Thanks in advance for any help!!

Would you say that narcissism creates a false sense of achievement instead of keeping you focused on the task at hand?

I was standing outside with a bunch of people. I think it was my school. Actually I often see dreams involving old school buddies. Any this plane came roaring through the sky and crashed no more than 50 m from me there was a loud bang and then there was a wave of what felt like an atomic bomb. It felt so real, I could see the looks of horror on some people's faces before I felt the force of it and then I woke up.

What could this mean? I remembered it cos I tried my best to note down what I saw as soon as I woke up. It felt like it might mean something important. What do plane crashes or explosions generally mean?

Why do we sometimes find ourselves failing long term goals such as improving our grades at school, getting fit or learning a new skill or starting a new hobby? This happens to me and I don't have an answer. I have the motivation at the beginning but then some way somehow I'm unsuccessful. Does anyone have any thoughts on the matter??