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There's a girl in my class in college (we are all 20 by the way). She is popular with everyone, especially the guys. Shes the best looker in college (and I like her, well we all like her..)

Anyway she's always talking to this perticular group of guys (me included), one of the guys in our group is a little shy and doesn't say much and is hard to invite out and infact is more on the fringe of our group rather than in it, antisocial guy.

She's only said hi to this shy guy, but the shy guy didn't give her much so they didn't connect, but she continued with the rest of us being social,

Anyway weeks later this girl invited our perticular group to a get together at lunchtime (which she hasn't done before)

Anyway she seemed very annoyed and upset when we all arrived, she seemed very annoyed that the shy guy did not attend.

I find this annoying. What is the deep psychology reason behind this?

Years ago woman wanted me alot but I couldn't. 10 Years later she notices me on a dating website and reaches out, she jokingly said she could never forget my name or face and joked that I had caused her a 'broken heart', she invited me to her home a day later, she said she hoped I hadn't changed much as she liked me how I was alot except the shyness. 

Anyway we sit at her place, I went for the kiss and she allowed then I left, she later joked that she would like a more bold and talkative me. She carried on messenging, she then invited me over again but I couldn't go as I was fixing a cupboard. We carried on talking but she cancelled my scheduled dates then a couple days later she took two days to reply, she then got back to me and said she gets depression, she then ghosted, I told her I liked her and she unghosted me and said she would phone later, but she didn't. Days later my family member died and I contacted her telling her, she then 'unghosted' me so she could say that she was sorry about it, she said that I shouldn't be offended and that she had given up on talking with anyone as her 'head wasn't in it'. I left her alone for 2 weeks and she contacts me asking how I was. Anyway it's gone quiet again. I created a fake dating profile and she responded to this guy saying she was lonely and she seemed into this fake profile, It became obvious that she may have lied to me. What went wrong? Why her feelings change? What did I do? How she view me compared to how she did?

Years ago woman wanted me alot but I couldn't. 10 Years later she notices me on a dating website and reaches out, she jokingly said she could never forget my name or face and joked that I had caused her a 'broken heart', she invited me to her home a day later, she said she hoped I hadn't changed much as she liked me how I was alot except the shyness.

Anyway we sit at her place, I went for the kiss and she allowed then I left, she later joked that she would like a more bold and talkative me. She carried on messenging, she then invited me over again but I couldn't go as I was fixing a cupboard. We carried on talking but she cancelled my scheduled dates then a couple days later she took two days to reply, she then got back to me and said she gets depression, she then ghosted, I told her I liked her and she unghosted me and said she would phone later, but she didn't. Days later my family member died and I contacted her telling her, she then 'unghosted' me so she could say that she was sorry about it, she said that I shouldn't be offended and that she had given up on talking with anyone as her 'head wasn't in it'. I left her alone for 2 weeks and she contacts me asking how I was. Anyway it's gone quiet again. I created a fake dating profile and she responded to this guy saying she was lonely and she seemed into this fake profile, It became obvious that she may have lied to me. What went wrong? Why her feelings change? What did I do? How she view me compared to how she did?

She once liked me alot years ago and chased but I couldn't let her in my life at the time. Many years later she's a single mother and reaches out to me via a dating site telling me she always had my face and name at the back of her mind and that she liked me alot except the shyness, she again seemed to like me alot, the first date was at her place and I went for the kiss and she accepted, after the date we texted and she joked that she would have liked a more 'bold move' and 'talkative' version of me, anyway we carried on speaking days later, I had to cancel another evening around her place because I needed to do some chores, we carried on speaking but she cancelled rescheduled dates and slowed texts does, she messaged saying sorry and told me that she has depression spells sometimes where she needs to shut off. Days later she ghosted me, a week later I informed her a family member of mine died and she unghosted me, telling me her 'head wasn't into dating anyone at the moment', she a month later after I left her alone messaged me out of the blue. But then again she didn't initiate contact with me afterwards. 

I made a fake online account and messaged her, and she told this 'fake hunk account' that she was lonely, and even asked for its number. So clearly she may have been open to dating after all. 

Was I lied too?

What went wrong?

How does she view me now?

What should I do?

We got on very well. She has kids and after a while she told me that 'her head wasn't in it' regarding dating due to her depressio, but I carried on asking her to meet up, but she's always busy to go on a date with me but she's still online sometimes on her dating profile, is she just lying to me regarding 'her head not being in it'?

She once liked me alot of years ago and said she could never forget my face and name, years later she got back in touch via dating app, we kissed on first meeting/date at her place, then I had to cancel next date at her place to fix cupboard, she then cancelled dates after, but she still was interested seemingly. She has kids btw.

Anyway she then took awhile to respond to a text I sent, she said she has depression spells and sometimes needs to shut off when she finally got back to me. She then soon after ghosted me, ignoring my messages, I panicked after days and informed her of my feelings, she then unignored me and said she would phone later, but she didn't.

Days later my family member died and I contacted her telling her, she then 'unghosted' me so she could say that she was sorry about it, I then told her that if she wanted the past to be in the past and no longer have contact with me that I would be ok with that, she said that I shouldn't be offended and that she had given up on talking with anyone in that respect as her 'head wasn't in it', I asked to keep in touch and she said 'ofcourse'. But no contact had resumed for a month. Then all of a sudden she messages me out of the blue a month later. What happened? Do I stand a chance?

A woman after a date said she thinks a 'bold move' me would be good, does she mean she thinks I'm a wimp that cannot protect her from danger?

A woman once loved me, she met me years later, we kissed on first date but sometime after in the weeks it seemed to go down hill from there, less communication from her basically, at one point a ghosting from her. So it became apparent that she was uninterested in me, so I decided to let it go and move on. 

However 2 weeks later she messaged me out of the blue asking how I was. Why didn't she just leave it, and let it go? As I had left her alone and was no longer messaging her.

After a first date a woman said 'A bold John would be nice' 'A talkative John would be nice'

What does she feel I am? And what did she mean exactly by 'a bold move' me?

A woman once liked me alot, she got back in touch, we kissed first meeting, then I had to cancel next date to fix cupboard, she then cancelled dates after, but she still was interested seemingly. She has kids btw. Anyway she then said she has depression spells and sometimes needs to shut off. She then started ignoring my messages, I panicked after days and informed her of my feelings, she then unignored me and said she would phone later, but she didn't. Days later my family member died and I contacted her telling her, she then 'unghosted' me so she could say that she was sorry about it, I then told her that if she wanted the past to be in the past and no longer have contact with me that I would be ok with that, she said that I shouldn't be offended and that she had given up on talking with anyone in that respect as her 'head wasn't in it', I asked to keep in touch and she said 'ofcourse'. But no contact has resumed.

Is this all just a fob off?, is she lying? Is it just me?

In past a woman liked me alot but I couldn't have her in my life. Years later she reaches out to me, she jokingly said she could never forget my name and face and I gave her a 'broken heart'. After talking for 3 hours she invited me to her home a day later, she said she hoped I haven't changed as she liked me how I was alot except shyness. Days later we sit at her place talking, I went for the kiss and she accepted then soon after I went home, she later joked that she would like bold move me and a more talkative me. So that was the end of first date, she carried on messenging me alot and still seemed to like me, she then invited me over once again but I couldn't go as I was fixing a cupboard. We carried on talking but she cancelled my scheduled dates and then a couple days later she took two days to reply, she then got back to me and said she gets depression and something about having to close off for a while, she then ghosted, I told her I liked her and she unghosted me and said she would phone later, but she didn't. Days later

 my family member died and I contacted her telling her, she then said she was sorry about it, I then told her that if she wanted the past to be in the past and no longer have contact with me that I would be ok with that, she said that I shouldn't be offended and that she had given up on talking with anyone in that respect as her 'head wasn't in it', I asked to keep in touch and she said 'ofcourse'. It's been a week and no contact.

A woman liked me alot 10 years ago, but I had alot on my plate at the time so I didn't let her in my life. Anyway... 10 years later she notices me on a dating website and reaches out to me, she jokingly said she could never forget my name and face and joked that I caused her a 'broken heart', she invited me to her home a day later, she said she hoped I haven't changed as she liked me how I was alot except the shyness. Anyway we sit at her place talking, I went for the kiss and she allowed it and then soon after I went home, she later that night joked that she would like a more bold and talkative me. So that was the end of first date, she carried on messenging me alot and still seemed to like me, she then invited me over once again but I couldn't go as I was fixing a cupboard. We carried on talking but she cancelled my scheduled dates and then a couple days later she took two days to reply, she then got back to me and said she gets depression spells and something about having to close off for a while, she then ghosted,

 Days later my family member died and I contacted her telling her, she then 'unghosted' me and told me she was sorry about it, I then told her that if she wanted the past to be in the past I would be ok with that, she said that I shouldn't be offended and that she had given up on dating as her 'head wasn't in it', I asked to keep in touch and she said 'ofcourse'. It's been a week and I haven't contacted her and she hasn't contacted me. What happened? 

A woman was in love with me 10 years ago, I had alot on my plate at the time so I didn't let her in my life. Anyway... 10 years later she notices me on a dating website and reaches out to me, she still remembered me and said she could never forget my name and face and joked that I caused her a 'broken heart', she invited me to her home a day later, she said she hoped I haven't changed as she liked me how I was alot. Anyway we sit at her place talking, I went for the kiss and she allowed it and then soon after I went home. So that was the end of first date, she carried on messenging me alot and still seemed to like me, she then invited me over once again but I couldn't go as I was fixing a cupboard. Anyway a couple days later she took two days to reply, she said something about having to close off for a few days due to depression and she cancelled my resheduled dates, but she's recently ghosted me for 2 weeks when I tried resheduling a date etc.

But then yesterday my family member died and I contacted her telling her, she told me that she had given up on dating and that she was sorry for my lose. I haven't heard from her today.

Is it over?

Why does she not like me anymore?

Am I a completely different person in her eyes to what I used to be?

Does she find it creepy that I know where she lives?

A girl I was dating said she was going through depression and she later then ignored me and then eventually got back to me saying she had moved on from talking to any man in that respect, my friend said it was just a excuse and she just uninterested?

A woman was in love with me 10 years ago, I had alot on my plate at the time so I didn't let her in my life. Anyway... 10 years later she notices me on a dating website and reaches out to me, she still remembered me and said she could never forget my name and face and joked that I caused her a 'broken heart', she invited me to her home a day later, she said she hoped I haven't changed as she liked me how I was alot. Anyway we sit at her place talking, I went for the kiss and she allowed it and then soon after I went home. So that was the end of first date, she carried on messenging me alot and still seemed to like me, she then invited me over once again but I couldn't go as I was fixing a cupboard. Anyway a couple days later she took two days to reply, she said something about having to close off for a few days due to depression and she cancelled my resheduled dates, but she's recently ghosted me for 2 weeks when I tried resheduling a date etc.

But then yesterday my family member died and I contacted her telling her, she told me that she had given up on dating and that she was sorry for my lose. I haven't heard from her today.

Is it over?

Why does she not like me anymore?

Am I a completely different person in her eyes to what I used to be?

Does she find it creepy that I know where she lives?

A woman was in love with me 10 years ago, I had alot on my plate at the time so I didn't let her in my life. Anyway... 10 years later she notices me on a dating website and reaches out to me, she still remembered me and said she could never forget my name and face and joked that I caused her a 'broken heart', she invited me to her home a day later, she said she hoped I haven't changed as she liked me how I was alot. Anyway we sit at her place talking, I went for the kiss and she allowed it and then soon after I went home. So that was the end of first date, she carried on messenging me alot and still seemed to like me, she then invited me over once again but I couldn't go as I was fixing a cupboard. Anyway a couple days later she took two days to reply, she said something about having to close off for a few days due to depression and she cancelled my resheduled dates, but she's recently ghosted me for 2 weeks when I tried resheduling a date etc.

But then yesterday my family member died and I contacted her telling her, she told me that she had given up on dating and that she was sorry for my lose. I haven't heard from her today.

Is it over?

Why does she not like me anymore?

Am I a completely different person in her eyes to what I used to be?

Does she find it creepy that I know where she lives?

A woman was in love with me 10 years ago, I had alot on my plate at the time so I didn't let her in my life. Anyway... 10 years later she notices me on a dating website and reaches out to me, she still remembered me and said she could never forget my name and face and joked that I caused her a 'broken heart', she invited me to her home a day later, she said she hoped I haven't changed as she liked me how I was alot. Anyway we sit at her place talking, I went for the kiss and she allowed it and then soon after I went home. So that was the end of first date, she carried on messenging me alot and still seemed to like me, she then invited me over once again but I couldn't go as I was fixing a cupboard. Anyway a couple days later she took two days to reply, she said something about having to close off for a few days due to depression and she cancelled my resheduled dates, but she's recently ghosted me for 2 weeks when I tried resheduling a date etc.

But then yesterday my family member died and I contacted her telling her, she told me that she had given up on dating and that she was sorry for my lose. I haven't heard from her today.

Is it over?

Why does she not like me anymore?

Am I a completely different person in her eyes to what I used to be?

Does she find it creepy that I know where she lives?

A woman was in love with me 10 years ago, I had alot on my plate at the time so I didn't let her in my life. Anyway... 10 years later she notices me on a dating website and reaches out to me, she still remembered me and said she could never forget my name and face and joked that I caused her a 'broken heart', she invited me to her home a day later, she said she hoped I haven't changed as she liked me how I was alot. Anyway we sit at her place talking, I went for the kiss and she allowed it and then soon after I went home. So that was the end of first date, she carried on messenging me alot and still seemed to like me, she then invited me over once again but I couldn't go as I was fixing a cupboard. Anyway a couple days later she took two days to reply, she said something about having to close off for a few days due to depression and she cancelled my resheduled dates, but she's recently ghosted me for 2 weeks when I tried resheduling a date etc.

But then yesterday my family member died and I contacted her telling her, she told me that she had given up on dating and that she was sorry for my lose. I haven't heard from her today.

Is it over?

Why does she not like me anymore?

Am I a completely different person in her eyes to what I used to be?

Does she find it creepy that I know where she lives?

A woman was in love with me 10 years ago, I had alot on my plate at the time so I didn't let her in my life. Anyway... 10 years later she notices me on a dating website and reaches out to me, she still remembered me and said she could never forget my name and face and joked that I caused her a 'broken heart', she invited me to her home a day later, she said she hoped I haven't changed as she liked me how I was alot. Anyway we sit at her place talking, I went for the kiss and she allowed it and then soon after I went home. So that was the end of first date, she carried on messenging me alot and still seemed to like me, she then invited me over once again but I couldn't go as I was fixing a cupboard. Anyway a couple days later she took two days to reply, she said something about having to close off for a few days due to depression and she cancelled my resheduled dates, but she's recently ghosted me for 2 weeks when I tried resheduling a date etc.

But then yesterday my family member died and I contacted her telling her, she told me that she had given up on dating and that she was sorry for my lose. I haven't heard from her today.

Is it over?

Why does she not like me anymore?

Am I a completely different person in her eyes to what I used to be?

Does she find it creepy that I know where she lives?

A woman was in love with me 10 years ago, I had alot on my plate at the time so I didn't let her in my life. Anyway... 10 years later she notices me on a dating website and reaches out to me, she still remembered me and said she could never forget my name and face and joked that I caused her a 'broken heart', she invited me to her home a day later, she said she hoped I haven't changed as she liked me how I was alot. Anyway we sit at her place talking, I went for the kiss and she allowed it and then soon after I went home. So that was the end of first date, she carried on messenging me alot and still seemed to like me, she then invited me over once again but I couldn't go as I was fixing a cupboard. Anyway a couple days later she took two days to reply, she said something about having to close off for a few days due to depression and she cancelled my resheduled dates, but she's recently ghosted me for 2 weeks when I tried resheduling a date etc.

But then yesterday my family member died and I contacted her telling her, she told me that she had given up on dating and that she was sorry for my lose. I haven't heard from her today.

Is it over?

Why does she not like me anymore?

Am I a completely different person in her eyes to what I used to be?

Does she find it creepy that I know where she lives?