Mom to Dakota and Lydia

I need a third party perspective of people that I don't really know. I will write out the infractions against him that have occurred and then I need someone to tell me I am either over anaylzing or in denial. This is over a 5 year period and we have been married for 1.5 years.

1) I received an email (from an ex) stating he was hitting on her little sister publically over a social networking site and sending her emails. He was confronted, stated he was being friendly and I took her as a jealous ex at the time. She told me he was a cheater but refused to tell me any details so I didn't want to rely on gossip.

2) Then came Narelle- another woman on an email where I accidently found the email (didn't snoop) about him saying how hot she was and he wanted to talk to her. She confronted him via email about how he was seeing someone and was obviously creeped out.

3) Shortly before we got married, one of my closet friends calls me to tell me she needs to get something off her chest before she lets us get married. She stated that while I was pregnant with our first child that he was trying to sleep with his best friend. He was sending her texts about it and everything. My friend stated that his friend would admit it all. I confronted them both and they both denied it fully. I did however find out that he slept with half the girls he is friends with at this point, but it was prior to us....

at this point I was getting married in a week, just spent so much money and was stressed I chose to trust him despite my gut instinct but I have no valid proof.

4) He goes to FL with the guys for the superbowl and tells me there were no womanlly interactions, etc. I didn't know his ex lived like 5 minutes from there either, besides the point... So he comes home and is talking a few weeks laters and then accidentally mentions the strip club and the fact that some of the guys paid for sex at the hotel... but of course he didn't, right? BTW strip clubs don't bother me and he knows he could have been honest

5) We are at a party at his house and my friend at that time tells me that she found pictures of his manhood on her phone. It was true and he said he did it as a joke.... however he continued to drink and I found them in the bathroom together, her pushed up against him on the wall trying to whip her boobs out... didn't end well that night but stupid me I chalked it up to drinking and he said he was pushing her away.

6) We now how a joint phone bill which he pays and I never look at. Well he was online looking at it and we decided to see who texts more. We scroll to his area and I see three unknown numbers that he calls and texts a lot. He told me two were from girls he went to school with and one was this internet thing that keeps texting him and he texts back stop each time... However it was obvious it was not so I called it and low and behold it was another woman. He stated he didnt know why he lied and that she was going through a hard time and he knew her from middle school. He texted her from when he left the house to when he got home. He goes to darts one night a week and they texted every five minutes... you could see when I texted him and it was ignored... he always said he didn't have his phone on him... lies

7) last night, we went out with my friends drinking. He drank quite a bit. We get home and my best friend calls me upset because he grabbed her *** in an inappropriate manner and she felt uncomfortable. I said something to him and then he passed out on the bathroom floor.

Sadly I think there is more but my memory is failing right now... so tell me am I overanalyzing or in denial? Is he a cheater?

Hello,

I have not been diagnosed with ADD/ADHD but I believe I have it. It only took me 25 years to realize it!!! I have been twice diagnosed with bipolar once when I was 17 and again last week. Each time I have felt they were wrong. I have no mania or hypomania, just depression. Well my husband blurted out he thinks I have ADD and I looked at him like he had two heads...

Then I went online and looked up the signs and it describes me to a tee! I took an online tested and I scored 114 (it stated 70 or higher was a very high chance of ADHD and I got 114!!)

I am always moving/fidgeting

I need an alarm to remind me of everything

I lose my keys, wallet and everything all the time

I put things in places to remember where I put them and then forget where that place is

I get bored easily

I lose focus in mind conversation and space out on what people are saying

I speak before I speak and say things I regret often

I am very irritable and have strong mood swings

I am always on the go or have to be doing something

I always have a huge list of tasks, start multiple things and never finish one

I procrasinate all the time

I am constantly daydreaming

As a kid I was bored and skipped school all the time

I could go on and on and on

When I was a teenager I took adderall (unprescribed) and it always helped me concentrate, focus and be happy.

It all makes sense to me now

I wanted to reach out to people living with ADD or ADHD, or anyone, and see if this sounds like I could be right?? I see my therapist on Thursday and hope to bring it up then

Thank you all for listening!

Sorry it is a bit long.....

I had a dr. appt today and baby passed the u/s except my fluid went from 10 on Monday to 5.4 today and I was told to head up to the hospital to be induced, she also failed the NST in the office. So off to the hospital we went to be induced. Instead we get there and they do another NST. Baby passed it with flying colors. The dr. then told me my fluid wasn't low enough to consider it an emergency and they only had one bed left and they had to keep it open for emergencies. I couldn't believe how they explained it to us, basically sorry your just not important enough. I was then told they have no spots for tomorrow but they can SQUEEZE me in on Friday, like it was some kind of favor on their end. I was p*ssed!!! Seriously, my dr. makes this big deal at the office and I am told today is induction day, to the hospital making me seem like I was less than important.

The dr. came back in and said she wanted to check me. I asked if she had to as they just checked me 2 hours before at the office and she said yes she wanted to feel for herself. So she checked me (again) and said my cervix isn't ready (60% effaced, 1 cm dilated) and that the baby's head was waaayy up. So now she tells me they are going to call me between 5 and 6 tomorrow night and have me come in to start cervadil. And then Friday morning we will get the pitocin. Why they couldn't just give me a time to come in was because they have to make sure there is enough room for me!

So here I am back home, worried because of the low fluid but feeling completely un-important and ticked off!

Am I wrong? They worry me enough at the office about the fluid being low and then brush me off at the hospital like I am an inconvenience to them! I have borderline low fluid and I am not leaking. Where the heck does 5 ounces of fluid disappear to in less than 48 hours!!

I don't have a question really. Just wanted to see if anyone else was due now/past due.

This little girl is comfy and cozy and I don't think she plans to come out anytime soon.

I've tried all the natural induction techiniques and like they say, nothing works until the baby is ready!

Besides the back ache, leg pain, pelvic pressure, itchy tummy, numb spots on tummy from the stretching and the overall sense of wanting to do this already, I feel fine lol! Not to mention my daughter (who is now 2) came two weeks before her due date. I am going stir crazy!

Anyone else happily miserable with me??

So I have my dr. appt tomorrow morning and I was be 39 weeks and 4 days. I am thinking about asking the dr. to strip me membranes to see if that gives my body that nudge to go into labor. I know it may not do anything, but it is worth a shot.

My question is when I went in last week I was 60% effaced but not dilated. If I am still not dilated (which I hope to be, even just a little!) can they strip the membranes or do you need to be dilated.

Also does it hurt? I've heard conflicting stories and I am guessing it is probably different for each woman.

This is baby #2 for me and she is stubborn, I had my first at 38 weeks!

Thanks everyone!!

Anyone else in that 3rd trimester blah/bored point? I am 37 weeks pg, baby # 2, I have a 2 yr old at home and I am starting to get impatient! I had my daughter at 38 weeks and I feel if I go past 38 weeks this time I will go nuts!

I know baby comes when baby is ready, but I am so ready for baby to come!

How do you pass your time in that last month. Everytime I try to distract myself from obsessively thinking about the pregnancy and labor, it seems to only last briefly!

It is amazing how 3 weeks can all of a sudden feel like forever!!!

First.. I know you can't tell me if my water broke, this is a what would you do in this case... wait or call now? I will be 34 weeks pg on Monday. Uncomplicate pregnancy to date, not high risk. I have a 2 yr old as well. A few hours ago I began leaking fluid, a slow leak, but I am 85% sure it wasn't urine, it was clear and odorless. I was also having itermittent back pain and tightening of the uterus. I was going to call my OB however it all stopped, including the leaking. I have an OB appt Monday morning. Should I call and get checked out a L&D today or just wait until Monday and mention it to my doctor? My water broke with my first, so you'd think I know! Btw baby is moving normally

So the hubby and I interviewed three doula's. The first was a doula in training and we felt no connection with her

The second two actually back each other up

We met them today and they were both great!!!! HOWEVER we had originally set up the appt with woman A and we got to meet Woman B as they back each other up

SO here is my dilemma..

How do I tell woman A and woman B that they were both great however we would prefer woman B if they were both available at this time I deliver. If woman B is not available then we'd still be very happy with Woman A as her back up doula

We just clicked a little more with woman B and now I feel sooo bad (which I shouldn't, that is why they do the interviews)

Thanks everyone!!!

So DH and I have decided to go the BF route this time. DD had such a hard time with digestive issues in her first year that I would hate to have the happen again.

I am really nervous about it.

1.) Is it going to hurt like hell? I hear so many stories about the pain

2.) When can I start pumping? DH wants to be able to feed DD when she comes too and he has already told me to pump for night time feedings as they tend to be his speciality. I know not right away, but how soon to keep him feeling involved?

3.) What kind of bottles best replicate the nipple? We haven't bought any yet.

4.)Sorry if TMI but I read that if you have nipples larger than a quarter then you could have a hard time BF. Well I am in a 38 G and my boobs are all nipple, they are huge! I am scared it won't work because of that. Anyone else in my boat?

5) I don't know if I will be able to pump when I go back at work. We only have a large public bathroom and I don't know where to go. I only work 5 hours a day but with commute I won't be home for 6 hours, what should I do?

6) I am still kind of a little iffy on BF, it never felt like it way for me in a sense, I can't really explain, but I truely want to do what is best for DD (not to offend anyone). I don't want to give up, but I don't think I will do it past 6 months unless it is just pumping, will that affect my milk supply when the time comes. Who knows I may love it, but I just get kind of weirded out thinking of a live person eating from my boobs. Even if it is my baby, it scares me.

7) Is there anything I need to know, especially for those first crucial weeks. Am I going to be beyond exhausted from it? I worry about DD and being too tired to function.

Any input would be great! Sorry so long!

Btw DH- the hubby and DD- daughter

Hi ladies,

Just wondering if anyone has or is planning to use a birth doula? The hubby and I thought about it the first time but decided not too and now we are considering it again this time around. Anyone have good experience or bad experience? Is it a waste of money??

Thanks!!

When did your breasts start leaking, if at all. I can't remember with my daughter, but I remember being surprised how early it started. I'll be 25 weeks on Monday and my left just started today. My right hasn't started yet, but I know it will.

Just curious to see how different everyone is with it. If this is a subsuquent for you, did they start earlier this time around?

Thanks ladies!

Are these worth the money? I never did one with DD but I am thinking I want to do one this time around. Are they overrated or is it something I will enjoy forever? Thanks!

Or any rings for that matter. With my daughter my husband and I were not married yet so I didn't have to worry about swelling but this time around we are. I am 23 weeks long now and I was wondering when did everyone take off their rings? I don't want to risk having my fingers swell so much that the rings get cut off!

Thanks!!