I Cheated On My Husband With A 17 Year Old?

I'm 41. I have a son in high school and his friend is staying with us for a few weeks while his parents are going through a divorce. My husband and I don't have a great relationship (though everyone thinks we do). He's seen my husband fight with me and call me names over different things. My children idolize their father and take after him so they don't really think anything about insulting me or just plain ignoring me. Skip ahead and basically we started sleeping together. We both feel horrible about it. We've slept together a few times but we also just go out and have fun. I feel bad. I just don't know what to do. I know the right thing to do is to stop but honestly, I don't want to. I actually feel happy around him and I haven't in a long time. I know my husband cheats on me and he hasn't bothered to hide it from me in the past 10 years. Please help.

2009-04-21T20:53:45Z

It's not legally statutory rape because consent where we live is 16. That doesn't mean I think I'm not guilty.

2009-04-21T21:02:28Z

My husband had an affair with a 13 year old little girl. I called the police on him. I'm the one who tried to help the girl and nothing ever came of it. I'm not a pedophile. The person I'm cheating with may only be 17 but that is legal where we live. He'll be 18 in 2 months. 2 months won't make you any more mature.

2009-04-21T21:10:18Z

I'm not expecting long term relationship obviously. I can't leave my husband. I don't have anywhere to go. I married when I was young to escape my family and I've never been to school (literally). I only learned to read and write in my 20s. I don't have any means to survive in the world without him. I don't have anyone that can help me.

2009-04-21T21:20:45Z

So Over It, I know you can't technically cheat with a 13 year old girl. He didn't. He out and out raped her. I have to stay with that man and I have to deal with his children that are turning right into him. Do you know what that's like?

2009-04-21T21:28:54Z

Chelsey, age of consent is 16 where we are. He's 17. It's legal by the law. And he wasn't a virgin. If he was, I wouldn't have done it. My children don't love me. Even my son will hit me and scream at me like his father.

Otis F2009-04-21T21:12:02Z

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Anonymous2017-01-15T11:42:35Z

Cheating On Husband With Son

Frankenstein2009-04-21T21:09:35Z

If you are sure your husband cheats on you, and the age of consent is 16 where you live, then I'd say go for it. But, how would your husband react if he finds out? Even if he cheats on you, he might not think the same about it coming from your end, and could possibly kill the both of you. Or, tell him you know about him cheating, and you would like to date a younger guy. If he can't handle that then get a divorce and take half his stuff.
Why are you still with your piece of crap husband? You typed the question and it looks to me like you are educated. If he did rape a 13 year old, you need to report it to the police, get a lawyer and divorce him. You still know the difference between right and wrong, and it is wrong for you to stay with him. If I was you I would pack up everything you want, drain the bank account, and get an apartment and find a job. There are lots of jobs where you don't need anymore education than to be able to read or write, and sometimes that isn't even necessary. Get the hell away from him, and if your kids are so messed up because of him, let them live with him. If you have always been a good mom, they will still be in your life.

Anonymous2016-02-26T06:57:26Z

You should leave him. It's a lot easier said than done, I know, but if he was unfaithful to you this time, how can you ever know he won't be again? Or how can you know this has been the only time? If you feel like you can work it out with him, then you can try. I am pretty sure that you will always have some trust issues with him, though. And a 17 year old? Wow, that's awful. I can't imagine how you must feel right now, but I feel bad for you and am truly sorry this had to happen to you. Go get yourself a gallon of ice cream, move in with a friend or family member and try to get on with your life without him.

Pink, it's my new Obsession2009-04-21T21:39:18Z

I'm sure whatever state you live in has assistance programs. Like food stamps, welfare, those types of things. Housing assistance, food banks, help with education expenses. THOSE THINGS ARE THERE FOR YOU! The government sets up those programs so that people in situations like yours can get out of them and be ok. So don't you dare say you can't leave your husband. Why the heck can't you? Do you want to spend the rest of your life miserable? If you do, that's fine, but don't complain about it because you choose it. If you want help you have to go get it. And it may be different, and not so easy, and a little scary, but jeeze, come on now. Look what your life has become. Do you even know who you are and who you want to be anymore? Really? It's less scary to go thru some big changes that put you in a better direction than it is to stay living like that forever just because you don't think you are strong enough to leave him. I suggest you stop worrying about some KID (yes, a KID) and start worrying about yourself. The only reason you are sleeping with him is because he makes you feel good about yourself. That will wear off eventually when he finds a hot 16 year old. You need to be the one that loves yourself. If you don't really love (and like) yourself, no one else will either. So get off your butt, find your backbone again and find out where you can go to apply for housing assistance, medical, food and welfare in the morning and go do it. The kids may love their dad a ton, but they would be very proud of a mother who's not a doormat. And a s!ut. It's true. Sorry, the only way to say it. So go take care of yourself, life's too short to use the poor poor me excuse forever. Do something about it. Nothing changes without change! And good luck to you.....

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