My girlfriend of over two years (We are sophomores in college) doesn't want me to join the Marine after college. I'd go in as an officer, as I am going to OCS this summer. She is worried about traveling and the distance thing. She says she'll never break up with me, but i don't understand why she is so frustrated with the military thing. I tried to explain to her all the perks but it's not worth arguing.
So should I never bring it up again until it's time for me to deploy (which would be over three years from now)?
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Semperfikindoflove2012-02-07T16:52:25Z
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If it's an issue you now, it will be an issue in three years. As a Marine girlfriend currently, it never gets easier but denial does nothing to help either one of you. She has no choice once you go through the process. She needs to commit to the Marines just as much as you do because when you sign up, essentially she's signing up with you.
Honestly, you need to find out now if she will be able to handle it. I've dated three Marines, I've been through boot camp, deployments, and training as a girlfriend. Yes, the distance sucks and the traveling sucks. But we still do it because the love we share is more important than the time apart. I have no idea what I can tell you to emphasize that it's an issue you need to deal with now. In three years, she could basically give you an ultimatum and tell you that you have to choose between her and the military. You don't want to get to that point in the relationship.
Make sure you make the best decision for you because this is your future. Women come and go in your life, yes you two have been together for a while but that doesn't mean it's permanent. I wish you the best of luck but do what you need to do. Once you're in the Marines, your job comes first, not your relationship.
Two years is a long time to be together. If you're still together when you graduate, it'll be four. Unless you plan on getting married, having a relationship will be very, very difficult. You can't guarantee that you will be stationed near her, and there's no guarantee that she'll be able to up and move with you wherever you do get stationed. So, she's concerned. That's a four year relationship down the drain, and the thought of that is quite disheartening and yes, frustrating.It's definitely something that needs to be discussed, continually, until you reach an understanding with each other.
Yes, the benefits for you are great, but she doesn't see that because you're more likely than any other branch of the military to become injured and or killed while in action. No one wants their significant other in any sort of danger.
Your recruiter within the marines ought to now not such as you given that you must be 32 earlier than they're going to flip you away, however even then you'll nonetheless get in all that's wanted is a waiver. I could attempt to speak to one other recruiter. As the marines and military are wholly one-of-a-kind.
The hardest job in the military, is a military wife. You deploy, and may not have any contact for weeks. Deployments are month to yrs. She is left home, while you travel. Her job, if married to you is always second fiddle. She has work, but you have duty. She is calling off to watch the kids. She is settled in a home, job, schools, and you get new orders moving you, and her.
Honestly, you should just sit her down and have a serious but calm conversation. About all the negative and positive things that will come out of you joining. Just dont be pushy about the facts if she starts to get upset, it might take some time to get her used to the idea but it will be easier later.
Plus nobody likes to be away from their sweetheart.