My husband was married to a woman for 10 years. They divorced because she told him that she is cheating on him. He asked he to stop cheating on him & have a fresh start she refused. He waited her back for 6 years but she didn't. He told me that he loved her 10 times more than me & his love for me is different.he has an 18 years old boy from her so they're still in touch. He wanted to divorce me twice because I called her a bit ch. And because of that he don't want to have children from me also. His excuse is I called people from his past names and he is afraid that will repeat in the future while we have kids so it will be hard to divorce me. What do I understand from all that? Is that means he is still in love with her? What else I understand from what I wrote ! I fed up . I am tired of thinking I am taking anti deprresion bills recently.I love him I am suffering
Randy2012-09-11T10:27:27Z
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ok sarah there is a lot of red flags in your post.
1) he told you to your face that he loves his ex wife ten times more than he love you. 2) is that he was ready to divorce you for calling his ex wife a b*tch. 3) is he dose not want kids with you because it will make divorcing you harder in the long run.
it sounds to me that you have never had a good relationship in your life because if you had then you could clearly see how much this guy is a douche bag. so we really can't blame you. let me put it like this. if you have eaten nothing but oat meal everyday for ever meal your whole life and suddenly this guy shows up and he's feeding you Mc Donald's for the whole time your with him. i can see how you would think. " oh wow what a great guy, at least I'm not eating oat meal anymore!" but the truth is you have not had truly good healthy food. something that it's worth living your life on. ok ok i'm going to drop the food analogy because i'm starting to get hungry.
but in short this guys no good. YOU leave HIM and do it soon because he's not going to get any better. find your self a nice steak and cuddle up with him or her. because happiness can be found in anyone.
After so many years together there will always be an emotional bond between them. They raised a child together too. It sounds like he never has got over the pain of her not wanting him. It is a big let down when someone you have loved for years does not want you any more and it takes a very long time to get over it. He has not let go of his past because of the pain he carries with him. Now he is afraid to love again and give him self to another woman. Just because he tells you that he loved her 10 times more then you does not mean it is true. It sounds like he is trying to hurt you because he does not want to be hurt. He did not like you calling her a ***** because she is the mother of his child so it is best not to do that. This man has been bruised very badly and is afraid to love again and give his self to you. You may have a hard road to travel in the future unless he realizes that there is no hope from the past and to drop his pride and live for the future.
It is hard being the new wife. I would start by not talking about the ex at all, what for??? You and him are married she is not part of the marriage unless you bring it up or he does, if he does just politely walk out the room and tell him you will be back just got to go to the loo or something, anything to change the subject without saying so much.
He is your husband and chooses to be with you, for a very good reason he loves you, so please don;t talk or worry or anything about the ex, enjoy your life with him.
he told you he loved her 10 times more than her and you are still with him why?
he has an 18 year old - been there and done that - that is the reason he does not want to have children with you - he's already paid child support . . .to someone he still loved - obviously - why make it worse by having kids with someone he doesn't love as much as he loved her? and it didn't work?
There is no way I would be married to a man that constantly talks about how much he loves his ex over me. That's disrespectful and you deserve better. He's still in love w her and if she would have him he'd most likely leave u in a second. Pls dont have any kids with him and seriously try to get out of this situation. There are others out there who will treat u with respect. He's a complete asshole...dont be stupid and stay w him.