My husband's ex wife?

ok sarah there is a lot of red flags in your post.

1) he told you to your face that he loves his ex wife ten times more than he love you.

2) is that he was ready to divorce you for calling his ex wife a b*tch.

3) is he dose not want kids with you because it will make divorcing you harder in the long run.

it sounds to me that you have never had a good relationship in your life because if you had then you could clearly see how much this guy is a douche bag. so we really can't blame you.

let me put it like this. if you have eaten nothing but oat meal everyday for ever meal your whole life and suddenly this guy shows up and he's feeding you Mc Donald's for the whole time your with him. i can see how you would think. " oh wow what a great guy, at least I'm not eating oat meal anymore!" but the truth is you have not had truly good healthy food. something that it's worth living your life on. ok ok i'm going to drop the food analogy because i'm starting to get hungry.

but in short this guys no good. YOU leave HIM and do it soon because he's not going to get any better. find your self a nice steak and cuddle up with him or her. because happiness can be found in anyone.

hope this helps.

After so many years together there will always be an emotional bond between them. They raised a child together too. It sounds like he never has got over the pain of her not wanting him. It is a big let down when someone you have loved for years does not want you any more and it takes a very long time to get over it. He has not let go of his past because of the pain he carries with him.

Now he is afraid to love again and give him self to another woman. Just because he tells you that he loved her 10 times more then you does not mean it is true. It sounds like he is trying to hurt you because he does not want to be hurt. He did not like you calling her a ***** because she is the mother of his child so it is best not to do that.

This man has been bruised very badly and is afraid to love again and give his self to you. You may have a hard road to travel in the future unless he realizes that there is no hope from the past and to drop his pride and live for the future.

It is hard being the new wife. I would start by not talking about the ex at all, what for??? You and him are married she is not part of the marriage unless you bring it up or he does, if he does just politely walk out the room and tell him you will be back just got to go to the loo or something, anything to change the subject without saying so much.

He is your husband and chooses to be with you, for a very good reason he loves you, so please don;t talk or worry or anything about the ex, enjoy your life with him.

he told you he loved her 10 times more than her and you are still with him why?

he has an 18 year old - been there and done that - that is the reason he does not want to have children with you - he's already paid child support . . .to someone he still loved - obviously - why make it worse by having kids with someone he doesn't love as much as he loved her? and it didn't work?

I'm so sorry

There is no way I would be married to a man that constantly talks about how much he loves his ex over me. That's disrespectful and you deserve better. He's still in love w her and if she would have him he'd most likely leave u in a second. Pls dont have any kids with him and seriously try to get out of this situation. There are others out there who will treat u with respect. He's a complete asshole...dont be stupid and stay w him.

you know what ,you need to let him have his divorce and you find someone else that is going to love you because he don't. i wouldn't take another pill over this, you are medicating over something like this? it is not worth it he is not worth it. how can you love a man like this that is still in love with a cheating ex wife. you are putting yourself through a lot for nothing. think more about your self then he thinks of you, because to deny you a family because he thinks you are going to call people in his past names is a inconsiderate reason not to have children with you. let him go and you move on. i'm sorry to say this but be glad you don't have children for him, now you are free to leave and find someone else who will really care about you. his wife didn't care about him and now he don't care about you that's like passing on a disease.

Step #1: Learn how correctly write sentences.

Step #2: Wise up. This man doesn't sound like he gives 2 flying ***** about you. Certainly do NOT have any kids with him as that would only make the situation worse.

Good luck, my dear, you sure do need it.

Divorce him immediately. He is completely blind, he can't see her true colours, you don't need to be equally blind. He will continuously compare you two, and I've got the feeling he is waiting for her to take him back and keeps you for the company. You deserve so much better. Just let him go and find someone who will see the world in your eyes.

He will always love her, sorry but its the truth, they have a child together and that child keeps them bonded. He loves her because she had his baby. Him telling you he loves her 10x more than you is uncalled for and you should go ahead and leave him for that but don't be mad that he has love for her, it will never go away. He'll always care for her because she's the mother of his child. It is rude to call her a *****, he may not be with her but no one should disrespect the mother of his child. His child would slap you on your face if he/she heard. Its just disrespectful. Talk to him and explain that if his love for her is that strong then he needs to face the fact that he's not meant to be in another relationship, he can't handle it and you shouldn't handle it. He should be able to seperate the love he has for his childs and for another women.

You do need to get out of this marriage. Clearly it is one-sided. You will never feel good in this marriage. I feel for your own peace of mind, you need to find someone else who will love you and treasure you for who you are.