Can Someone give me some good solid advice on what I should do to help my Schizophrania husband?
My husband of 25 years had been diagnosed with Paranoid Schizophrenia and Bipolar in 1999. He was taking his medicine regularly, and then stopped in 2005, where I saw his mental illness went from being under control to very bad. My husband who was seeing a Psychologist (once a month), and a Therapist (twice a month) had started to refuse to go to his visits any longer. He was getting worse talking to himself, getting angry, and seeing things that weren't there. He also accused me and others of plotting to do things to him that were not true. I was told then by his Therapist when I told her what was going on to go to the Chancery Clerk here in Mississippi where I live, and have the Police pick him up to be admitted in one of the Mental Clinics. When the Police arrived I was very shocked and saddened that they put the mentally ill in handcuffs, and in jail. I was also shocked to see my husband in a Orange jumpsuit with handcuffs and shackles on in Court, like he was a criminal. He went to the Mental Clinic and stayed about 2 1/2 weeks, and come home. I promised myself that I would never do that again, because it hurt me to see that. My husband took his medicine for some months, and then off and on, and then completely stopped. I then along with his Therapist talked him into admitting himself back into the Clinic instead of being arrested again, this was around 2007. After that my husband took his meds for a little while, and again refused to take it. I didn't know at the time, that my Mother in law who lives in Illinois, for years was agreeing with my husband that he didn't need any medicine, and that nothing was seriously wrong with him, until he left me, and went to stay with her and she got a small taste of what My daughter and I was going through, and she herself told him he had to leave. He return back to me, and had gotten worse this was in 2010. I then again had to go to the Chancery Clerk, and the same process again. I had no choice. This time he was admitted into a Mental Hospital for a Month. I hoped that things were going to get better. My husband come home and seem to be doing well, and then a couple of weeks later, He got off his meds, and flew to Illinois to stay with his Mother again, paying his Mom rent. Then he come home 3 months later. Things had gotten from bad to worse where he would refuse his medicine, and leave and go back and forward to his mother's. Then at the end of 2011 he left, and I was sad to say, I Was glad to see him go, because I was so stressed out from his illness, that it was making me physically ill, with headaches, depression and high blood pressure. I couldn't take it anymore, and was hoping he would live with his Mom permanently or get his own place. I was happy just to know he was with his family, but things changed where he left his Mom's accusing her and her boyfriend of saying or plotting to do things to him. He called our daughter who was 21 at the time, that he had move to South Carolina. We learned from him that he was living in homeless shelters, and sometimes sleeping outside in the park. He then saved his Social Security and bought a used truck, and was living in that. My husband was gone almost 2 years. He then called and said he wanted to come home, and was tired of living that way. My husband is now home a month since July 2013, and the first week up to now has been the worse. He talks all the time to himself, that I sleep in the guest room. He have all kinds of angry episodes over anything, and calls me and my daughter names. He goes from talking to himself to laughing for no reason to himself out loud, to fussing with himself. He also says he is leaving again when he gets his S.S. money, and go where no one in his family will know where he is at this time. I know I have to put him in the Hospital before September gets here, and soon when he gets another check. My Question is? How can I get him to stay on his medicine (can it be Court ordered) that if he doesn't he could be picked up anywhere. Also how can I prevent him from leaving when he's endangering himself, and not to mention being wasteful with his money buying things he doesn't need like jewelry and etc., and not helping with any of our bills or Mortgage leaving me with all the burdens. HOW CAN I HELP MY HUSBAND WHO HAS GOTTEN WORSE OVER TIME? HOW CAN I GET HIM TO STAY ON HIS MEDICINES IF HE IS IN DENIAL THAT HE HAS A MENTAL PROBLEM? I NEED HELP PLEASE! I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO. Also he acts likes he hates me, when I have him forced into a hospital.
Yes I had tried to sneak medicines in his food or drink in the past. I had bought a pill crusher that grinds it into powder. He would always taste it, saying his food taste bitter, and started fixing his own plate.