If I bought my dress, bought my own accessories, including boots, am paying for my own make up and hair, bought a shower gift and a wedding gift AND bought refreshments during out setup time....do I still have to bring a dish for this potluck wedding?
2014-10-31T08:30:49Z
Bride asked me to bring a bottle of liquor this morning for shots. Not making anything. Not going to lug my crockpot, WITH utensils, and all the ingredients up there. This is why 'do it yourself' weddings suck rocks.
G R2015-01-27T16:44:11Z
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Pot luck wedding wow that's tacky.
In answer to your question, that would be yes.
****Just because she asked you to bring one does not mean you have to. So it's up to you, but I'd say I forgot. What is this bride and groom providing for their guests, anything?
You say the problem is solved, but I don't agree. Are you unable to say no to this bridezilla? If not, why not? I think asking for a bottle of liquor is just as over-the-top as everything else, and you should have told her to buy her own. It's her wedding, not yours!
On makeup and hair, if the bride is requiring it, the bride is supposed to pay for it. Your only obligation was the dress and shoes.
As for potlucks, I know there are small pockets in the US where these are acceptable, but in ALL cases, the covered dish is considered the wedding gift. I'll go out on a limb and guess this bride expects people to give wedding gifts in addition to providing the food for a reception that is supposed to be HER thank you to THEM.
She's using you as her personal ATM and you're letting her do this to you. I sure wouldn't, but then I've never been a bridesmaid with a bride like this.
Potluck weddings are really rude. Guests should NEVER be required to bring their own food, or a dish to share, or any kind of gift or payment.
It was also rude of the bride to demand that you buy specific shoes, and get your hair and makeup done. If she is requiring those things then she needs to pay for them.
As a bridesmaid, the only things you're obligated to pay for are the dress and its alterations. That's it. You are perfectly within your rights to say NO to any other requests.
If this friend of yours keeps demanding that you open your wallet, then you may want to rethink this friendship.