How do I tell my same sex wife that I want to go out with my friends alone?
I've been married (same sex) for 2.5 years. She moved from Canada and doesn't know anyone here. So, the few times I've been out with my girlfriends (old neighbors I've known for 15 years and other friends who I've known from college), I brought my spouse with me. She didn't know my friends, so it was a good way to introduce her to my friends. But, I sort of miss just going out with my girlfriends on my own. If I were married to a man, I wouldn't be bringing him along. So, I'm struggling with this. At times, I don't mind bringing my spouse, but other times, I just want some alone time with my friends--similar to women wanting "girl time" away from their spouses. The thought of leaving my spouse alone at home makes me sad because she doesn't have friends of her own. But at the same time, I want to be able to meet up with my friends to catch up, without having to bring my spouse along. Sometimes when I bring her, she becomes a bit shy because she doesn't have the history of all the memories everyone else has and I don't want my friends to think we are a package deal, either. How do I tell my spouse without hurting her feelings??