Why is it that when a girl says "I dont want a relationship" the first thing she does after leaving you is get involved with another guy?

......2016-03-22T14:33:17Z

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A girl is being a coward instead of saying, "I'm not interested in you," or "I lost interest in you."
In high school, I dated a girl who was a freshman while I was a junior, who pulled that "I don't want a relationship" on me and then not long after telling me that, she had her first boyfriend.
What did I say or do wrong to her? Absolutely nothing.
After 1 date with her, she told me that my lips were very dry when I kissed her and then she prank called my folks house with one of her female friends who I knew, asking me how I felt about her transferring to another high school.
She wasn't going to transfer to answer high school though.
This girl ended up giving me attitude and making fun of me at times after changing her mind about me.
I knew the guy she ended up getting involved with.
He looked worse than me but I got along with him though.
He didn't do anything wrong to me.
To me, there are girls that are simply cowards in telling a guy they don't want to be with, the freaking truth.
Another line of crap that girls will use is, "I like you as a friend."
Well, what if that guy was never friends with that girl in the first place?"
I mean, how can you like that person as a friend?
If that person was your friend, wouldn't you not want to be screwed up to that friend when you know that friend treats you right?
If guys should have guts to approach a girl and come off respectful then there should be girls who should have the decency to politely reject a guy.
Another line girls use is, "its not you, it's me."
I hope that I've helped answer your question and take care of yourself. I mean it. ~Alan

osho2016-03-22T14:31:53Z

we human are this irrational creatures. we do things based on emotions rather then rationality. we arent even aware how much of our life is governed by emotions. If she felt connections and emotions with other guy, she will go after him... without thinking about anything else.

don't complain about it simply use this psychology to your advantage. Know that people operate by emotions and understand human nature. maybe try to seduce people, play with their emotions to get what you want

but the first, accept the human nature as it is

Alex2016-03-22T14:29:55Z

It means she doesn't want a relationship with you but was making an attempt at not hurting your feelings. It doesn't mean you did something wrong per-se, just that you weren't right for her.

Selena2016-03-22T14:45:20Z

Sadly it's saying she doesn't want to be in one with you. It's hypocritical i know.