Daughter's father a sociopath? Scared to go for child support...?

You have a couple choices - but they depend on the details of your situation. You can file a restraining (or no-contact) order on behalf of you and your daughter and file for child support via the state - where they can force him to pay the state directly (the money comes to you via the state - but it takes longer) or garnish his wages. Prepare for him to suddenly become "unemployed" (ie: working under the table). Or he may be a good boy and do as he's told.

The other choice is to file a restraining order (a MUST in either case) and disappear to another state, which little or no contact to your previous lifestyle. Some women's programs at domestic violence shelters have counselors who can give you tips on relocating. The tough part is - you have to do it on your own, but if you do - USE THE SYSTEM. Apply for everything you and your daughter are elidgible for. The system is in place for people like you to use it - not for others who abuse it.

Either way I wish you luch and BE STRONG. You can do it.

I had discovered my husband was a sociopath about the same time I found out I was pregnant. Fortunately, with the support of my family, I left him, filed for divorce and moved out of state. It didn't hurt that he was picked up for violating a probation condition when he beat up his ex wife ( I didn't know about any of this stuff) and was spending a few months as a guest of the LA county Jail. I have been on my own with my daughter since I was 6mo pregnant. It is hard raising her without a dad and without child support, but it can be done. I believe I did what was in the best interest of myself and my child. Yes it is scary but sometimes it's better to just walk away. You have to think about which situation will cause more damage to your child. Will she grow up better being with you and not being influenced by a man she will fear? or will she be better off with a little less money and a lot more emotional stability?

I am You, nine years ago.

Four kids, Psychopath dad. I went to Safeplace, they gave me great supoort and advice. Bless Them.

My ex made my life a living hell for about a year and a half, and then he went to prison for something that had nothing to do with me. then when he got out, more hell. My family, local police, friends, co-workers, Safeplace advocates all helped me through this horrible time.

You Should be scared. Because it is that fear that will fuel your desire to stand up to him.

There are so many horror stories, but there are also success stories.

What is the greater evil in your situation? Would going without child support for eighteen years be better than putting up with his crap? Or is he going to give you crap no matter what you do?

The best thing that you can do is talk to a lawyer. You will need evidence to back up your claims against him, especially if you do not want him to have any visitation rights to your daughter.

no longer a criminal expert yet my wager is that as quickly because it incorporates the welfare of a youngster they (whoever is on your youngster's behalf, criminal expert, social worker, i do no longer understand) can examine out protection stress information. A choose can order it if needed. you will possibly no longer have the skill to tutor the molestation, yet once you have any info of issues he has achieved that extra wholesome the delinquent character illness prognosis be certain you have that. Arrests, suicide tries, and so on. i do no longer understand the device however the prognosis is often solid. no longer basically she stated/he stated. solid success!!

i think you shouldnt be scared to go for child suport he needs to pay for your child for living if you need the money then you shouldnt be scared and if he acts stupid call the cops on his behind