Should i tell my hubbie about his mama!?

Tell him to go talk to his siblings, that there is something going on with his momma and you don't want to say too much because YOU haven't seen it firsthand but THEY have. This way it's coming from the right source. A good soldier can separate his worries when out on the battle field. Wouldn't it be worse for him to come home from deployment and find her in the state and discover that everyone except him knew? I speak from personal experience. When I was in A.I.T. in the Army I was in my 7th month of AIT training and was ready to graduate. I called my parents to give them my flight information and found out that they couldn't pick me up because my sister-in-law had died in a car wreck earlier in the week and they were going to be attending her funeral AND my 4 year old nephew was in the hospital with multiple injuries sustained in the wreck. They didn't even give me the opportunity to attend the funeral because they didn't want to "distract me" from my final test. I've had a hard time letting that one go and resented that they didn't think I was strong enough to handle it.

Honestly, if his siblings know let them be the one to tell him. No man ever wants to hear anything about his mother from anyone "outside" of the family. Even though as his wife you are his family, he might resent you for telling him. Maybe you should talk to his siblings and let them have a "family meeting" with your husband before he deploys. This way they can do whatever they can together to help your mother-in-law. If he finds out after his deployment, he'll feel helpless and left out.

Good luck and say a prayer.

First off, you do not know it for a fact, you just said that it was told to you that his mama is doing cocaine. In a court of law that would not stand, so why risk setting your husband off with information that is possibly a lie. Would you not feel like a total fool if you told him that his mom was doing coke and a hooker because his brother or sister told you, then he confronted them. Only to find out that they denied ever telling you any of it? If it is true, let them tell him, they have the first hand knowledge, you don't. It would be different if you saw her do it, but since you have not, then leave it be.

Not sure if this is the right thing to do, but since your husband is getting ready to deploy I would not say a word! He has enough to worry about like protecting our country. And, what your heard might be incorrect. If anything maybe discuss it with his siblings or let them handle it.

By the way - Thank your husband for his service to our country for me!

Your evidence of Mama tricking and doing coke is second-hand, right? So based on a rumor you're willing to send your husband off to war based upon THAT flimsy proof? What is he supposed to do with the information? Are there dependent children under the Mama's care or are we talking all adults here?

It seems to me that Mama is doing what Mama has always done and I suggest that unless there are minor children involved and in danger, let your husband do his job. He knows what his Mama is and has obviously chosen to rise above her life example.

Having been in the army, he doesn't need this headache if he's ready to deploy. Talk to the other siblings and see if you can get something done about it. If it's an emergency (she's about to die because of the behavior) that's another matter.

Chances are though, I bet he does know.

Not the best decision. Let her tweak and trick while he is away. Discuss it with him when he gets back home. I'm getting ready to deploy also and bad news always seems to hit me harder than ever right now.

Wow...that's deep. Ummm...I would say maybe not, simply because of his deployment. His mind has to stay clear and focused on what he has to do over there. What's going on with his mom is something the other siblings are going to have to handle. And he may already know, and just can't find it in himself to discuss it with you yet. Mothers are a soft subject with their boys. So let him go and do his job, and hopefully when he returns things would have worked themselves out.....And please thank him for us for his service.....prayers going up;)

Not unless you know it is true. Don't rely on what others have told you. This is a serious situation and you need facts. If you find out that it IS real...then tell him. Good luck.

I would tell him! If you don't and he finds out then he will be mad at you for NOT telling him! He also needs to know before he is deployed! That way he can try to get her some help before he is deployed! TELL HIM!