Do you have physical joint custody?

I have sole legal and physical custody but one of my greatest fears is that one day my ex is going to call up and request joint custody. That will be a bleak day indeed. He does have visitation and we can be civil to one another. It has been over two years since our split and although we have had some serious arguments most of the time we are able to keep it calm. I think it works for our relationship because we both want to work it out for our son. To be honest most of our problems do stem from money. Like you I don't really care about money, not loaded either but if he doesn't want to pay that is his problem but then I have these moments when I say wait no ... this is his kid too and he should contribute more than just the absolute minimum amount. I kinda got over that and realized that he is never going to change and since then I have been able to look at the entire situation from a somewhat objective point of view. The most important thing to me is that my son is safe and well cared for and I think I can do that pretty well with out the sperm donor. (I do have great family friends that are wonderful male role models for my son so that helps!)

Actually these are great questions...and I have first hand experience too.

First off my husband has joint custody of his son with his ex-wife.

His son is 17. I have a 9 year old from a previous marriage myself and I have full custody.

My husband's son stays with us from time to time. It has never ever been an adjustment for us. For me...or for my daughter.

I really like his ex-wife(strange but true) and we get a long great. We both know that we are there for the child...(even though he isn't going to be a child very much longer)

We have grown to be a huge family with the kids as our center...Life couldn't be greater!

Me and my Ex have a 7 year old daughter we have someting like a joint custody. Before he would have her every other day or a few days here then more days later. Now he has her every weekend and I have her durning the week it can be hard at times on your child but as she grows she understands what's going on. If you ever want to talk you can e-mail me.

My divorce papers say we have joint custody. But they also say that I retain "Primary physical" custody with him getting her every other weekend. Doesn't matter if the parents were ever married or not. They are still custody papers. They get drawn up the same, whether the parents were married or not, because it is about the kid(s)...not the parents.

Joint custody can work really well when both parents live in the same town and both parents get along well, I mean communicate well with each other for the sake of the children.

That me. I was with my sons mother 7 years and we have that arangement.

with me Sunday-Thursday one week next week Monday-Thursday.

We have this since he was 3 years old he now 14. I will let him tell you how he feels. He did play both of us but when we got over the fighting and talked, he dint do it anymore.

My sons statement:

It was a pain at the begining, but i got used to it. Just dont try to inslut the other parent, thats the worst. Just takes time to get used to.