Is it better to hurt now or later?

Hootie,

That's a hard one. Is it truly a definite end that you see? Or is it insecurity, fear, paranoia, imagined? Is there factual evidence? Putting the pieces to such a complex puzzle can be exasperating, consuming and insane. Better to go with the flow if you are unsure and or other strings attached such as the tender hearts of children. I would stick it out to the very very end, I don't believe marriage is a game nor should it be taken lightly, (If you are married). It's always been hard for me to let go of love in any arena, I don't like the feeling of defeat or failure in anything especially when it comes to love...

So for me I choose to wait...

even through the uncertainty, pain and tears.

Now or later seems to me will bring the same grieving results.

A definite process of the Heart...

Why are you ending it?. If it is something concrete such as drugs and/or abuse and you have tried to turn things around. End it now. However, Always remember this: if a person thinks the grass is greener it may be for a couple of years. Reality sets in and you end up dealing with a different set of issues.

End it as soon as you can... It's never a good time to hurt, so if the end is coming for your relationship, get it over as soon as possible...

Time will take care of the hurt, although it doesn't seem so at the time, it will...

I wish I knew...I'm in your boat. Sometimes I think that maybe waiting would allow me to "ease" into the idea and sometimes I think a fast break would be the best and just start fresh. I know how you feel and I'm sorry you're hurting. Good luck to you.

Your call. I say if you move now you may never know what is in store just as if you wait. SO do it now. What the heck. This will be one hurtle less to cross and it may be one of the smallest hurtles that look so big because it is tied in to our emotions.

If it is coming to end, I personally would rather get it over with and move on.

if you actaully love that someone like you say u do...u dont sit around waiting to end the relationship...u do sumthing about it to try and prevent it. otherwise its a pretty pathetic love if those 2 options are your only options.

Now is always better because you don't feel like you foolishly dismissed you time on the other person!

it really depend on the situation.if you know that there no

hope in making it work then it would be better to let go

now it will hurt but it will be even harder down the road.

it's better to end it now... the longer you wait, the more it will cause you pain.