Wedding gift for couple who doesn't want gifts?

Im just guessing, but they probably dont want the stuffed animal. Animal adoption or a donation is a very nice gesture. Or, you can give them a card and it will be fine.

I don't think that there is anything wrong with having a wedding shower, or second baby shower. Me and my husband lived together and had a wedding shower. Some people brought gifts other people didn't. I was not expecting to receive a gift from all guests either. There is no rule that says you are required to attend bearing gifts, although it is very kind and generous of the people that do. It doesn't matter that they have already "started" life together. As far as the baby showers, I've known several women that have had a shower for all there children. This actually seems to be becoming more popular these days. I don't think that there is anything wrong with it. Why is it being greedy? Once again you don't have to bring a gift. The way I see it, its a "party" of sorts. If invited to a birthday party, I'd come with a card and/or gift, or if I was invited to a dinner party, I'd bring a dessert or wine, so whats the big deal in bringing a small gift/card to a wedding shower or second baby shower. Besides, most of the time someone else plans these events, not the bride or the second time mom.

If they specifically requested NO GIFTS, go with some sort of charity or other donation. If you give them money, they may feel embarressed and wonder if their request gave the impression that they just want cash (which is a big no-no!).

http://www.arborday.org/join/TICTIM/index.cfm?trac... Check out Arbor Day...here you can donate a tree for the couple. It's a nice way to honor their union with something that will grow and flourish, just like their marriage.

Do you have any nice photos of them together? A small photo in a nice frame would be a nice, personal memento and wouldn't impinge too much on their already established household. Otherwise charities are the way to go I think; their evil underbelly is that the happy couple may get solicitations for donations for the rest of their married lives if it's done in their name so make sure it's something that would be meaningful to them. The stuffed animal depends on the couple. Do they keep an elegant home? If so, it may just eventually wind up in the trash bin.

A charitable gift would be nice but it's still a gift made in their name and something they haven't requested. It's hard not to give gifts for various life events I know but really if they don't want anything then please honor that and just join in their day with them. Bring a card if you absolutely must.

What wonderful ideas. I remarried at 39 and we to had no gifts please.We had 2 of everthing trying to make 1and,didn't need anything .I really love the polar Bear Idea.I don't think the stuffed animal is childish at all. I would give it top honors,and be proud of your thoughtful, kind gift.I really don't think you can top it.

What a lovely idea, we are also a couple who has said no gifts please (AND IT'S NOT BECAUSE WE WANT MONEY EITHER, IT'S BECAUSE WE JUST WANT OUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY THERE TO CELEBRATE WITH US) and I would be happy with either of those ideas, but I do have a soft spot for polar bears. What type of people are your friends, are they animal or nature lovers?

There are so many charities out there, many people have a favorite, or at least you could find one that is appropriate in relation to them.

I think its a good idea to do the charity thing. I would just

try to find a charity they would appreciate or care about specifically.

For example, in my family, donating to the Komen Foundation would be meaningful, because one aunt died of breast cancer, and another has it. For me, donating to the Anne Frank Fonds, any organization whose purpose is to educate young people about the Holocaust and what we can do to keep it from happening again (various museums, the Shoah Foundation, etc.) or the National Endowment to the Arts would be great.

If they have particular interests, try to find a charity that fits with those interests.

LOL Notice everyone so far who has suggested you do the charity thing has said you should donate to THEIR preferred charity.

If they say they don't want gifts, you must just go with their wishes. Take a nice card.

how about a gift certificate to a restaurant or a home improvement store...something is bound to come up and they'll be happy to have a gift certificate to repair their leaky faucet or what-have you.