Why are people sooooo afraid of confrontation?

The older I'm getting the more I realization that the confrontation is the smartest thing anyone can do.

When you're younger, a vast majority of us anyway, we fear what may result if we ask someone out or go up to someone and ask for their number, or even what our spouse may say in regards to a sexual question we may have for them.

But now I'm thinking, more and more, you'll be happier if you just say things, ask them, whatever! Life is better that way.

But why is that, why are they afraid? Rejection is terrifying..Humilating...What really, what will it do? It doesn't hurt us physically.

No. Sometimes it has to be done expecially if I'm having some kind of problem with another person. The only way to solve it is to get things out in the open is to confront them. I would rather confront them then let the situation get out of hand. Open communication is better than talking behind someone's back & allowing the problem to worsen.

I do not think it is so much confrontation, it is more a case that most people do not like rejection and for some, this fears prevents them for talking. Also if you are going to have a verbal fight, it is better to fight the fight you can win. Shouldn't argue about little insignificant things.

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Mostly because they don't want the arguement that follows..some people..you just can't talk to. Some people you can tell something to and they take it so far out of content it just becomes more frustrating than anything so that next time something comes up..you just blow it off just to avoid the B.S that you know will follow.

Sweet Pea it really depends on what type of confrontation it is. I mean the word confrontation sounds so big ugly, they may want to stay away from it. Good luck!

I am not...but my husband is...he doesnt like to fight or have discord at all and so he doesnt even say something is bothering him until he is so upset that he can hardly think...it has taken me years to get him to tell me when there is a problem and it has been ALOT of work.

It is not the confrontation itself, it is a fear of the outcome and result, fear of the conflict and fear of what will happen.

A punch in the nose hurts?

I believe its because we are afraid of the answers.thats what i think.