can we make it??

He sounds like he doesn't know what he wants. If you are content where you are, stay. If he wants you HE can do the moving. Its alot easier for a single person than it is for a family to just up and move. Give him a timetable to make up his mind....past that date, serve him with papers and get on with your life.....it's better than your kids in a constant state of upheaval.

dTheres a lot of 'alarm bells' going when I read this. If he was really serious about getting back together then he would make the effort to be with you, as you have three kids and it's not good for them to keep being up rooted. Secondly, his response to your question, that is not a 'loving' answer at all. Personally, just cut your ties and get divorced, I feel there will only be problems if you do as he says - a relationship is give and take, he's shown he can take, he needs to give.

What I am wondering is, where is all his love, compassion, and concern for you and your children? It seems to be all, 'me, me me!'. He might be confused, but if he loves you that should be evident in him showing more selflessness, taking into consideration your needs and how this situation is difficult for YOU. It looks like you are trying to endure and pull through, but he's just dragging whoever's along for a ride to God knows where. I don't know about divorce... what are your religious beliefs? However keep in mind that you have to think of kids and not even just you. He does not seem to be doing that.

Stay where you are. He can send the child support money by mail or direct deposit. Uprooting the kids again is not the answer. A new husband and good step father is. Good Luck.

bring all the kids together under one roof and get a divorce. he sounds like if it's not convenient for him then he doesn't go for it. so, quit compensating for his lack of input. i agree with your ambivilance that if he's "take it or leave it" attitude doesnt' change to " i need you and can't live with out you", then don't waste your time, energy and money moving back. go with your gut instinct on this one. i think you have a strong instinct. stay strong with your decision to stay put for now. the kids are the most important thing. they need to all be together under on roof with a stable parent. good luck

If you go back you are just confusing ur kids . that is all that should matter H e can be mean all by his self STAY WHERE YOU ARE.Iam doing the same thing Iam not trying again ..

Just stay where you are. You can do better than that man, all that matters now is you and your children.

Stay where you're at. He has yet to prove what his true motives are.

What do YOU want???