Older Married Couple -- have kids. How do you keep the feeling of intimacy going between husband & wife.?

Always make time for each other. Remember how you courted her when you first met..? Continue to do this. Make a date night with each other.... find a babysitter, and go out, dinner, theatre, a play maybe... a clandestine walk, stroll through the park... If this is the husband, write a letter to her about the things she means to you. If wife, write him a letter telling him how much he means to you...

Mostly a significant event like a heart assault makes a character admire and cherish their loved ones much more. It looked as if it would have the reverse outcomes to your husband. Probably the loss of life scare made him suppose that he had now not been fully residing earlier than. Maybe it made him so depressed he became to consuming. I have no idea. It can be unfortunate that he might no longer try to "straighten up" when his youngsters needed him. I think it's good although that you're not dangerous mouthing him to the kids and are wanting them to have a better relationship. I feel it's principal so that you can forgive him, in your own well-being. Nonetheless, you may have given him many possibilities to make your relationship work. Might be you two are simply as pals at this factor. Only your own intellect and time will inform when you two will have to get again collectively.

Married for last 27 years and staying with two of my three college children in the same house.

It is true life and intimacy is more than sex. We maintain our close union and intimacy through closely shared interests. My wife and I spend almost all our free time together. I for myself do not remember when I last went anywhere outside the office work without her. Whatever there is to do or to go, we do it together and that keeps us very close.

Right now, I have just reported to work after a three weeks leave, in which we spend every moment together, working on a building project. She is now in charge of the project through out the day and in the evening we spend a lot of time together evaluating the project. We hardly have any close family friends around us so we keep a tight family relationship.

Suggest you try to identify some thing you can jointly embark on that will make you spend more time together. You can also go for an intimate outing in the park or spend some nights out. Occasionally I take my wife out to spend the night in one of our surrounding cities and she seems to enjoy it very much. A night out in a hotel room brings out the spark.

I feel your pain. We're late 40s and early 50s and have 2 teens. We have the same problems.

You need to set aside some time for just each other. Try to find a babysitter once a week, or even a couple times a month. You and the hubby need to go out on a "date", for some time to yourself. Does your child not have a set bedtime? You say she is a young girl. Even my teenagers have a bedtime, especially on school nites. They are in their rooms at 9:00 pm on weeknights, although I know they don't always go to sleep that early. Even tho their bedtime is only an hour or two before *we* go to bed, that little hour or two gives us the time we need to talk, cuddle, or whatever and try to maintain that intimacy you speak of.

this is easy... one word... BABYSITTER!!! the biggest problem i feel married ppl have is just finding the time... there's no time for each other because there are chores to be done, work to go to, child to take care of, bills to pay.... you have to set aside time for each other.. and not feel bad that you are passing the kid off to a friend or family member... YOU HAVE TO MAKE THE TIME.. go out to eat, go to the movies, stay in and bang some head boards... whatever it is that makes you two feel closer to each other DO IT!!..... my auntie had a friend... and her and her husband every morning take a shower together... before the kids get up.. while the kids are gettting ready... in the morning they take a shower together... have every day since the day they got married... and the kids know if the shower is running dont knock on mommy and daddy's door... and they have their time together... in a world where all we have is time till there's time no more... make the best of it....

Remember you first date. Make a date. Get a friend to take care of you child. Have fun. Do this regularly and don't forget "Communication" is the best when maintaining a strong marriage.

Comunication. My wife and I have been married for 13yrs, we have 2 kids (12 and10), a boy and girl. Sex is great but there is nothing like a good mind f*&k. Just because you are older doesn't mean that you relationship has to become that way.

often a huge journey like a coronary heart attack makes a guy or woman delight in and cherish their better half and youngsters much greater. it appeared to have the alternative consequence on your husband. possibly the dying scare made him think of that he had not been completely residing until eventually now. possibly it made him so depressed he grew to become to ingesting. i don't understand. that's unlucky that he might desire to not attempt to "straighten up" whilst his little ones mandatory him. i think of that's stable nonetheless which you're actually not undesirable mouthing him to the little ones and are wanting them to have a greater acceptable relationship. i've got self assurance that's significant which you would be able to forgive him, on your guy or woman well-being. whether, you have given him many opportunities to make your relationship artwork. possibly you 2 are basically greater acceptable off as acquaintances at this element. basically your guy or woman recommendations and time will tell in case you 2 might desire to come back jointly.

Have someone watch the child while you and your husband take a week's vacation together to renew your love. It is the only logical solution for parents that are overwhelmed by responsibilities of their children. I am sure you can find someone to help you get that break, even if it is just for a long weekend.

Alexgirl,

We are both Christians and have GOD in our marriage. HE will strengthen that bond more than anything else that you or your spouse can do. We have been happily married for 32 years and have a teenaged daughter also. My wife is the greatest thing in this world. Have a wonderful week.

If you have additional questions please send a note and I will gladly respond.

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