My husband thinks we can't try anymore, but I know we can, MEN any advice?

tell him

everything is gonna work out

there is nothing called IMPOSSIBLE!

if there is still love

there is still hope

but most of the time if a husband had been so true and so mean to put up divorce as a final work

he might really has lost his love

passion patient

and tolereance...

and might be he had found another woman

If a man insist that there is no other way for trying, that means a lot of reasons. In partnership, it should be two sided affection. One should love the other and vice versa.

You might be wasting time for waiting, remember that love does not require begging to the one you love. It is a natural feeling. Don't waste your everlasting love, there are so many better person aside from your husband.

I know it would be very difficult for you to move on, that's the reality, and you should accept .

Open the door of love to others.

I'm in the same boat. I know that if only we both worked on it, we could fix our marriage. Unfortunately, he doesn't want to try; it's taken two years but I finally am convinced that who he is now simply doesn't have it in him to want to fix our marriage. I still doubt that this is the Real Him, but, I can't change him. I guess this is who he wants to be (or who his friends tell him he should be, and he sees them more than he ever saw me, since he works with them). Who he is now wants a trophy girlfriend/wife, not a partner; I want a partner (and jeez, we're 35! not even to traditional midlife crisis and "younger woman" time yet!) I hate to think that the man I know has become so shallow, but, that's the way it evidently is. He won't even go to couples therapy, I suspect because either he can't face who he is when I know who he was, or there's something else he doesn't want me to know and is afraid will come up there.

I don't doubt that your husband believes that you want to be with him; you have no problem there. It sounds like *he* simply doesn't want to, and that's something you can't control. I am so very sorry.

Counseling is usually good medicine.

For your man not wanting to try anymore, means something else is going on. You need to check your weight, being judgmental, nagging , etc....

Men like to relax, be alone once in a while. He could be getting smothered. Space is good.

You will NOT be able to convince him of your feelings for him He already knows them and it doesn't matter.

I'm sorry. You cannot "Make" anyone love you. It seems to me that he has someone else out there somewhere. You, I'm afraid have lost him. Let him go, he's obviously isn't with your love and affection. He has it and is willing to pass by. Been there done that.

Move on and out there somewhere is a nice man for you that will love and respect you and only you.

If he's saying that then he doesn't want to try anymore. Just more on, find someone that really loves you, but don't jump into another relationship right away.

sounds like your pushing tooo hard and he feels trapped. if he wants out. then let him go. you cant and wont change his mand. do you really want him or are you afraid of the fact of being alone? it sounds more to the latter. you need to cut your ties and move on. why stay with a guy that dont want you around no more. thats pethic in my book.

there must be something going on in his mind? how long haev you tried? did you try to find out why he thinks like that? what are the reasons? if he agrees then you are look at an alternate sex partner so that you can be productive. open to talk in private.

tom

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Give him love and tight hugs where he likes to be hugged and make him coffee in the mornings. Wash his feet, he will surely become addicted to your affections.

Love begets love !

He cannot resist pure love !

Just don't spend too many years waitiing for him to respond!!!! I've waited 14yrs, and wife is still not responsive!!