triad members, are you sick of hearing about "abortion"?

Yeppers

I don't think your being mean, rude or nasty either. Adoption has all it's own issues, and no where does abortion come into play in them.

Besides what kind of question is it to ask someone "Do you wish you were aborted instead?" SHEESH

LaurieDB: I am posting to comment on your answer b/c I think it makes a very simple yet strong, valid point. Anyone who is not adopted can not say for certain that their mother did not ever consider it at some point. Should they then be grateful? Say their childhood was a turbulent one...should they still just quit whining and be "grateful" they weren't aborted?

I am not adopted myself but I can understand everyones frustration on here towards the abortion thing being thrown around. I think that maybe the way you worded your point would really hit home with people who have no direct experience with adoption or adoptees. It throws it right back in their face, which, unfortunately at this point is what I think some of these ppl need.

Yes, I'm sick of seeing adoptees told to feel grateful they weren't aborted. It seems that people tend to see only 2 options for an unplanned pregnancy: adoption or abortion - as if parenting weren't an option - and adoption is considered the "good" choice. On the other hand, I kind of understand feeling grateful for a woman's decision to give her child life and place her child for adoption rather than have an abortion. My daughter's birthmother considered abortion. How could I not feel grateful for the very fact of my daughter's life? So, for SOME I do see that it IS a decision between abortion and placing for adoption.

I hope I haven't derailed your point, which I do understand. Please know that I would never expect my daughter to be "grateful" for circumstances which involve deep loss for her. No one is born with a debt of gratitude, but some people seem to think adoptees are.

Yes Rachael! Like you & many others, I'm here to discuss adoption. And adoption reform. The abortion debate belongs in the Political category.

Adoption is not the only "option" to abortion. Oh wait! Maybe that's the reason they've chosen this forum! It's the only option those posters can think of.

In any case, for many adoptees, abortion wasn't an option for our n. moms. Though available, it was illegal, expensive, and dangerous.

It's tiring to hear "be glad you weren't aborted". The comment is especially callous when said to someone who grew up in an abusive home.

ETA: Adore Him...until you have actually LIVED another's life, you really have no business deciding whether or not their life was/is worth the choices OTHER PEOPLE MADE for them. You really just don't get it, my dear! "Thankful for a life of abuse"? Well, sure...if YOU say so!

ETA II: Should we also say to all children who survive abuse, "Be grateful you weren't aborted!"...?

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Phil M made a statement that the choice is to abort or carry to term. AFTER THAT it is to parent or relinquish. This is an accurate yet simple statement and should be repeated OFTEN.

I do not suggest that Phil M or I support or decline abortion. Instead that once past the decision to carry to term abortion is no longer part of the equation. It is at that point a separate issue.

My daughter's bio mom never considered this (I can't even say the word). It does make me angry to hear those comments made to adoptees. I shutter to think that someone might ever say something like that to my daughter.

ETA:AdoreHim makes a good point. Adopted or not we ALL should be thankful for life. Being thankful or grateful does not always have to be taken in the context of adoption.

YES, i'm sick and tired of abortion....

This is the ADOPTION category! Hello?

I feel like it detracts us from the real issues in adoption, such as reform and how best to achieve it.

I refuse to answer anymore questions involving adoption and abortion. Well, maybe i'll ask them if they can see what finger i'm holding up? lol Maybe its rude but i'm past the point of caring. We just seem to be chasing our tails in the same circles. I want to move forward.

Yes, indeed! Abortion was never even considered by my mother. She wanted me, as did my father and the whole family.

Let's face it, any woman can consider abortion, whether she ends up keeping her baby or not. How do these non-adopted folks who say these obnoxious comments know for certain that their mothers never considered it, but then decided they could/would go through with the pregnancy and parent? Well, they don't.

But, does it matter? You are here. If your mother had aborted, you wouldn't be here and the whole silly question would be as obviously moot to the asker as it is to the askee.

It frustrates everyone honestly, you are not just being cranky. The fact that these people continually post abortion questions in the pregnancy section, and all of its sub categories is disturbing to me. Anyone with half a brain would realize that those questions are much more appropriate in the Womens Health section, if they are technical questions, The Religion and Spirituality section or Womens Studies, if they are moral questions. People say that abortion questions concern pregnancy, no they do not, they concern the termination of pregnancy, that is a BIG difference. It is a routine medical service performed on women exclusively, that makes it a Womens Health issue, not a pregnancy issue.

I have in the past sent over 20 emails to the Yahoo Answers team asking for a separate category for abortion related questions, I have received 20 emails politely saying that they have no plans to make a category specifically for abortion. They are afraid of backlash. I think it is ridiculous, and if abortion questions are going to be answered in the pregnancy sections then I think they should be answered with a curt,

"this belongs in the Womens Health area, please put your questions in the correct category."

Another thing that may work is reporting all abortion questions that end up in the pregnancy sections and adding our comment of it being placed deliberately in the wrong section for the express purpose of igniting a fight.

Actually, I find that it is adoptees mostly who bring up the "abortion" questions. What I am sick of is people who refuse to acknowledge that both abortion and adoption are responses to an unwanted child. Just because the final decisions are seperated by nine months (usually not that long) doesn't make them completely unrelated to eachother.