Men : What do you think or do if your wife/lover /girlfriend thinks she is rudely ignored?

LOL, the best way to go about this is not to take her to the restaurant in the first place - cook her a home-made candle-light dinner, then spend the evening seducing her.

Most guys I know (not all) know how to cook and do so very well. Most girls I know do NOT know how to cook, so will be impressed by the "arcane arts" of cooking wizardry.

And one can have a selection of one's OWN drinks to go with the meal. If you're into home-made beverages, try honey-wine or honey beer. It'll knock her socks off - and the rest of the clothes then become a whole lot easier to remove. Socks, did I say? Hurrumph, those DRATTED SOCKS are a real difficult thing... but they're like the bath-plug, once they are gone, the rest just drains away.

I'd ignore her silly ramblings on that. Since the start men have always been the providers and while times are now changing she shouldn't expect that everyones going to agree. Out of those who eat at a resteraunt that are couples the vast majority still follow the man pays rule. She needs to accept that and just work out the check between you and her and not get bent out at the wait staff.

But you can always say to the waiter seperate checks at the start of the meal if thats how its being done or think of some small comment for when the waiter/ress is there suggesting she's paying and hope they pick up the hint like "next time its on me honey" or whatever.

You fail to see what has been in the past known as tradition. Traditionally, the man asks the woman out, pays for the meal, basically has all expenses of the date. Waiters are trained to either set the bill in front of the man or near mid table in todays society. It's not being rude as it is only what etiquette dictates be done. In todays society, it is not uncommon for the woman to ask the man out or to go dutch or pay for the date in its entirety, but restaurant waiters will always either put the tab in the middle of the table or near the gentleman, unless the woman is already searching her purse for the credit card, then he may set the tab near her. I won't do anything because I don't find anything that was done as rude.

I don't get this. If she is picking up the tab I'll tell the waiter. No need to pretend. If she thinks the guy is rude then she can talk to the manager. Peace

are you saying you're jealous that men always get handed the bill?

That means we have to pay it.........

If you would like the bill, just ask for it... the waiter will give you lots of attention and i'm sure the guy would appreciate a free meal for once....

Whats so wrong with paying for a meal every now and then?

There arent any** free ride$.. dont be afraid to make your own

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just hand it to her and jokingly say "hey sugar momma! it's your turn" my boyfriend and i are open about alot of stuff and i don't think that either one of us really get worked up by stuff, but if it were a special occasion and i was intending to pay only to have the check given to him, i would be upset, but when i need to recieve the check i usually lay my wallet or credit card next to my plate or glass.

I AM ABSOLUTELY CONFUSED but then again you did want men to reply and I am not a man, I hope the men will understand your question because I certaintly didn't.

Whether she pays for it or I pay for it, it comes out of the same budget!

Good for you. There's nothing wrong with equal rights.