how do i deal with the death?

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Three years ago I had gotten this 2 year old cat from a friend. He was a very friendly cat, and he liked to get too comfy in the bassinet with their baby. I took him home, we were the best of friends. I had brought him home in Febuary. April I got pregnant. In August, we had a tragic accident. I was having a horrible pregnancy, and came home from work quite often from throwing up. One day, I came home around 10 am. We had a storm door and a big regular door. He always liked to look out the storm door when he could. This particular day I hadnt noticed he went to look out the storm door and shut him inbetween the doors. I went and layed down. When i woke up from a nap a little after noon. I heard a noise at the door, and thinking the storm door wasnt latched, I went to shut it only to find my cat stuck there....he was panting harder than I have ever seen an animal pant. His back legs didnt work. Took him to the vet, where he ended up dying a couple hour later.

Update:

I still have nightmares about it and dont know how to deal....please help. I do have 2 other cats right now but dont seem to fill the "void"

Update 2:

when I had brought him to the vet, in hours before he died, they said he had a heart murmer that was undiagnosed. Also, after he died, the vets office sent me a poem that was very touching...about how it was ok, death happens to us all, etc. I took that poem, and the one and only picture I had of him and put it in a frame and it is hanging in my living room.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I have had a death recently. Christmas Eve, 2007. My cat was only 1 1/2 and he was turning 2 this month. He was hit by a car and his back leg broke and he died on the side of the road. I cried a bit, so don't be afrad to just vent and cry and cry and cry. I cried for 3 hours STRAIGHT. Couldn't stop. He was my best buddy, and it is awful to lose a great friend. I still have nightmares and flashbacks, too, but you have to learn to let go when you are ready. You will always have the memories in your heart. Good luck. <3

R.I.P. Both our kitties.

cs · Answer

I am so sorry for your loss. From what you described it sounds like your cat had a thromboembolism, or a blood clot, caused by heart disease (Hypertrophic Cardiomyopathy) which unfortunately is too common. Many cats have this, without having any symptoms, and there is nothing you could have done to prevent it. It was just unbelievably coincidental that this happened at the same time as he was stuck. This is NOT your fault, it was just a ticking time bomb, that would have occurred no matter where he was. I know this probably doesnt make it easier to have lost him, but I hope it will help ease any feelings of guilt you have.

sanfair222 · Answer

You need to concentrate on the good things. Unfortunately cats will always have a shorter lifespan than us, and it's always hard when they die especially in a tragedy.
Try and be happy for the time he had with you, remember he's at peace now.  
I get the feeling you're feeling guilty about what happened.
It's always easy to think back later about what you might have done, but it serves no purpose. 
It always helps to talk about it, therapists are expensive but I'm sure an understanding friend will help you go through it. Don't be afraid to cry and let it all out.

My sympathies are with you.

Inuyasha · Answer

It's hard to deal with the death of a pet. I should know, I had several animal die on me. I've had 19 animals die on me. 6 dogs, 4 cats, a ferret, a morning dove, a donkey, 2 ducks, a squirrel, 2 roosters, And a horse die on me. Believe me when I say you will get over it in time. You just have to tell yourself that he's in a better place. It's all a part of life. Besides, although your cat is gone, doesn't mean your memories of your friend are gone. Friends are forever. They don't need sentimental items to tie them together. She will always be in your heart, and you in hers.

It&#39;s Me!! · Answer

Hello hurkamur..I'm very sorry for your loss..The death of a beloved pet takes time to get over ever one one is different I would try to remember the good times your had with your cat and try not to focus on his death . You could do something in memory of your cat put a scrapbook together plant a tree something to help remember the special time you had with him. I'm sorry to hear about your cat he will live forever in your heart..My heart goes out to you best wishes

Anonymous · Answer

I am so sorry you went through something this horrible.  I don't know how to suggest you deal with it, but you really MUST stop blaming yourself and move on......it was a terrible accident, but it WAS an ACCIDENT!  If you have pictures of the cat, perhaps create a special memorial for him....a special album or something, to remember the good times and how much you loved him.  Remember, your cat loved you, he is happy now where he is.....and he KNOWS that you loved him and wouldn't have intentionally hurt him for anything.

Anonymous · Answer

My  terrific, inventive and faithful cat was diagnosed with brain tumor and had to have her put down.......i removed all signs of the cats presence in my house same day so wouldnt be reminded  which helped but cant have another cat ,  but have made friends with a neighbours.....
dont know if this helps?

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