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Is this jealous and if it is, why did I get jealous? Can we get past this?
We have this couple friend that are no longer a couple. The guy in our friends relationship got a new girlfriend. The old girlfriend and her really like eachother, so my husband went out and met her with our guy friend. He called me on the way home and told me how funny she is and how I'd really like her too. I didn't react very well. And I don't understand why. He and I always wanted the two to get back together so it is a little weird for a new girl to be in the picture. But why did it bother me that he had a great time with our friend and his new girlfriend? He thinks I was jealous that he had a good time without me. I can't figure it out. I feel even worse because he praised me the whole night and was so excited to have met another "couple friend." I don't know why I acted this way. Any thoughts?
Basically my husband went out with our friend of our and he had a wonderful time! Which is fine! I have no problems with that. My husband said my tone changed when I learned that our friends girlfriend came along. He thinks I was jealous of that, but I don't know if that was it. He praised her saying how much I'd like her and he even praised me to her the whole night. Now it has really affected us. I think he thinks I lost faith in him. I didn't but I don't understand why I reacted so badlly.
Basically my husband went out with our friend of our and he had a wonderful time! Which is fine! I have no problems with that. My husband said my tone changed when I learned that our friends girlfriend came along. He thinks I was jealous of that, but I don't know if that was it. He praised her saying how much I'd like her and he even praised me to her the whole night. Now it has really affected us. I think he thinks I lost faith in him. I didn't but I don't understand why I reacted so badlly.
Basically my husband went out with our friend of our and he had a wonderful time! Which is fine! I have no problems with that. My husband said my tone changed when I learned that our friends girlfriend came along. He thinks I was jealous of that, but I don't know if that was it. He praised her saying how much I'd like her and he even praised me to her the whole night. Now it has really affected us. I think he thinks I lost faith in him. I didn't but I don't understand why I reacted so badlly.
3 Answers
- pictureshygirlLv 71 decade agoFavorite Answer
You felt jealousy over your husband complimenting about this new girlfriend of your guy friend. Since you do not know her, you felt threatened by her. Your husband was right and so what? These are normal feelings if not carried off too far.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Well, I can really only speculate.
I think you may be jealous that the other two went out as a couple, and your husband went but you were not invited along, or were otherwise unable to attend? Maybe it bothered you that your husband went without you?
It's also possible that it's bothering you because this other woman was a friend of yours, and now you feel like she's been cast aside and someone new has taken her place, which bothers you?
Maybe you're worried your husband finds this woman attractive, and you're having jealous feelings because you weren't there?
I don't really know what you feel that way -- only you can answer that question for yourself. All I could possibly suggest would be for you to give this new girl a chance, and also maybe not have your husband go out with a couple without you?
Good luck!
- AnakinLv 51 decade ago
It's the whole change thing. You said you wanted them to get back together and when hubby was all excited over the new piece, you didn't approve because subconsciously, you want your friend and his ex to reconcile. When he approved of the friend's new gf, you were caught off guard and reacted accordingly. You weren't jealous; you just aren't accepting the change...right now.
