Would it be rude to...?

Why don't you just send them a bill?

I think the answers were all trying to be helpful.

It is always hard to know how people will interpret your invitations. It sounds like you are putting a lot of thought into it and that is good.

I think the proper etiquette is to not say these things. The reason is because it can be interpreted as you expecting presents. I know you are trying to be helpful making it easier for your guest to buy useful, appreciated gifts for you daughter, and some may appreciate that, but you run the risk of it being interpreted the wrong way.

Birthdays or "Days of Life Gift" are known for people coming together to celebrate that the individual has essentially survived another year. I think you're missing the big picture in that your daughter is going to be surrounding herself with people who genuinely care about her and are happy she's in this world. People getting her a gift is really a courtesy and you should appreciate the thought that people put in.

I understand that you want to minimize challenges as far as sizes, and toys that your daughter will enjoy but I think putting such in the invitation would be a real put off.

Just ignore the mean people, they're not worth your energy.

Listing everything out on the invitations would be a little weird, but having a registry is pretty standard. It's completely acceptable, even desirable, to let people know what kinds of gifts are appropriate for a 1-year birthday. They EXPECT to bring gifts and want ideas! I suggest you register at a few places, for example Toys R Us and Amazon, and list the links on the invitation.

It is a little rude to put these things on a invitation. It sends the message that guests need to bring a gift to attend. Her birthday party isn't really for her, it's for you. At a year old, all the kid does is sleep through the party. Your baby will be happy with getting a big empty box as a gift. If it's about getting gifts you want her to have, take the money you're spending on the party and just go shopping for her. She won't remember the party anyway.

I think a lot of people might be offended by that so I would leave out her size and what toys she likes. You will likely get phone calls asking about it but it is better to tell them then because they are asking but otherwise don't include that information in the invitations.

Kind of presumptuous maybe. The people you're inviting should be people you already know so they should have some kind of idea what to get her already. Most of the time if people are iffy about the gifts they're buying, they'll include a gift receipt or get you a gift card. Or they'll call you and ask.

Putting that type of thing on an invite makes people think you're expecting them to get your daughter a gift, even though that's probably not what you have in mind. Kudos to you for trying to be helpful though! I think your heart is in the right place.

Very rude. You NEVER mention gifts on an invitation at all. For a 1 year old, it's not too difficult to find clothes or toys that baby will like.

I don't think you should put her size or wish list on the invitation. Instead, give prepare for some phone calls. I guess you'll have to just hope they call or email you asking for this info. Or, hope they include a gift receipt.

Good luck, and enjoy your daughter's day!

I can see where you're coming from but I don't think it would look good to put that on the invitations. If worse comes to worse and the clothes don't fit or it's something she doesn't like, you can always return it to the store for store credit and exchange for something she does like. Or if you have a gift receipt you can get a refund.

Actually that is not a half bad idea, saves you the feeling later of having to explain why you had to return something, but do it in some type of manner as when you are like typing just put like F.Y.I at the bottom and top it off with a sticker or smiley face!! : )