My daughter's boyfriend asked her to marry him today. *They have a daughter together* Read details?

I think that it's best to tell them that in this day in age it is okay to have a child with someone and not be married. There are many alternative lifestyles. Whether or not you agree with this, or agree that it is okay that she had a baby at 16, it will be encouraging to hear that these things happen and that you, the parent's don't frown on it. What's happened, has happened, and now you deal. How do you know that he wasn't purposing because he thought it was the right thing to do? I think she is making the right choice. You don't know anything about your life when you are 16 and it seems that that is apparent to her. The responsibility of having a child is one thing, let alone the responsibility of a marriage.

I think that she should tell him that she can't make this decision right now and that it's best to wait until they're both out of school and have their priorities straightened out. If he walks out on her now, I doubt it will prevent him from walking out on her in the future. For right now, support her decision and let it be.

You have to ask yourself if you want to live like this for the rest of your life. Sometimes love just isn't enough. You cannot change a person and even if you do leave he will promise to change and beg and plead, but you have to stick to your decision. Understandibly you do not want your daughter to see you fight and argue, and if that is all she does see, it isn't healthy. Is it maybe not better to say that you are better friends than lovers, separate and raise your daughter together, yet separately? You need to do what is best for both you and your daughter. If he won't go to counselling and he continues to have these "tantrums" then you really need to evaluate your circumstances and make a decision. It will not be an easy choice and sometimes the best decision is the one that hurts the most. Good luck with everything.

THIS is a tough 1 but i;ll try to answer the best that i can. While personally i think that they both are 2 young 2 get married now they should both finish school first and later down the line see what happens first. Because that's a big responsibility even 4 us grown folks. Maybe the reason ur daughter ran out the room is because she is not ready 4 marriage yet. Give them time and see what happens down the line.

16 is obviously very young to be having a newborn child, living alone, doing school and being proposed marriage. The poor girl is overwhelmed! She needs some space to get herself together and realize what she really wants for her and Maddy's future. The guy sounds lovely and obviously loves her and wants them to take the last step in making their family complete, she's just so young and is already trying to process being a new mum. Maybe if they just stayed boyfriend and girlfriend for a while and then he could try again later. Just be there for her as a friend to vent to, and try and give her the kind of parental guidance that she craves. Give her all the facts on being married, the benefits and the hard bits and give her all the advice you can on being a single mum and see what she decides to do. So long as she is making a educated decision and following her heart she can't go wrong.

Tell her that if she isn't ready for marriage, that's OK, because she is only 16. Tell her that, in her case, the best solution is to tell her boyfriend that although she loves him very much, she isn't ready for marriage quite yet. This gives them the option of waiting a while and seeing what happens, having a very long (maybe 2 years?) engagement, or he can give her a 'promise ring', which means he's 'promising' to propose to her down the road. While I usuallly think 'promise rings' are silly and superfluous (cause I've almost always heard of them being given by couples who might as well be engaged), in this case I think it's just about right because it indicates long-term commitment yet an awareness that they're not ready to get married just yet. Perhaps you'd like to make this suggestion to him at some point...

I understand that they both love each otr but if she's doubting that he's the one she wants to spend the rest of her life with then it's clear she's not ready for marriage therefore you or the bf shouldn't push the issue. Having a baby is one thing but marriage is another. It's a huge step in a person's life and not one to be taken lightly. He will feel sad that she hasn't accepted his proposal but at the same time he needs to understand that they are both young teen parents with quite a bit going on for them & should deal with all that first before taking the next step. I wouldn't push the issue with her atall, when she's ready for marriage it will be on her own time, just leave her be.

If you daughter isn't sure that she wants to marry him she shouldn't say yes and she should tell him.

I disagree with Dream (above) because if she does this it will be giving him false hope and possible prevent both of them from dating because they did it would be cheating.

Tell them that they are both very young and need to make sure that the decision they are making is the right one. Explain to him that sometimes love itself isn't enough and more is needed for a successful marriage. Maybe a break from dating and just being there for their daugther is enough for now.

Good luck!

Tell them both that there are many considerations in regard to raising their daughter and possible marriage that they should discuss with a professional counselor. Both of these young people have had much to deal with emotionally and need time to process what has happened.

If you can help them to find suitable counseling, it will give them the time and wisdom to make good future decisions.

truth is she's got a lot of new stuff going on right now - new baby and living with her bf (even if its in your house) so the truth is she has no idea what she wants down the road, she's just trying to wrap her head around what's going on now. she should tell him that she just needs to take one new thing at a time. does she have any ppd issues? he shouldnt feel bad, he's obviously settled into this new role a lot easier than she has. she doesnt know if he's the right guy for her because she has no idea right now. tell them so much has happened already, plan to take things slow for at least 6months to a year and then let them reassess things.

Well she needs to tell him that she loves him very much. She can accept the marriage proposal but put the marriage off for a few years. That will give her the time she needs but also make him happy.