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No way!!! In any shape or form are you blowing this up. He needs to blow up at his peoples for not respecting you as a member of there family. And as I told you the other night I would have signed the card and Mr.So and So plus 1!!!

I hope the yahoo family will help you and give you the kind of advise you were looking for. I also hope he comes around and starts to see things your way. And praying is a good idea. If you ask he will listen :)

I think he should say something to them because (even if you WERE blowing things out of proportion-which I don't think you are doing) you still feel bad and he should try and soothe those feelings by doing EVERYTHING he can.

I was in a similar situation (I am Mexican and my hubby is White) and one of his friends was doing the same things to me. I let it slide the first and second time because I though 'maybe he'll get used to it soon,' but he didn't and he kept trying to leave me out of everything. Mu husband talked to him and made it clear that if I wasn't included, than he (the frined) can forget about him (my hubby) coming. His friend started including me, and even though he stll might not like me, he does respect me.

I think that at the beginning it takes everyone a little time to get used to it (especially if you're from a different ethnic background) but after TWO YEARS! NO, it's just TOO LONG, and your husband should REALLY give you your place and respect you and grow some ***** and tell his friends/family to include you or to forget about him, because without one, there's NONE.

no I think you have a right to feel this way. Your husband should put his foot down and tell his family that you are also a part of this family and that they should accept you regardless of your race.

Anyone would be pissed by the actions you listed.

Maybe try doing one-on-ones with each family member and put them on the spot: why don't they accept you?

This is a tough situation because your husband's loyalty lies within his family but he needs to also accept you as part of his whole family. He is also part of the problem.

Also have a sit down with your husband and explain how hurtful this is for you.

i feel that you are definitely not blowing anything up. his family needs to accept you for who you are. you are his wife! the wedding about his bestfriends seems a little ridiculous. you guys are married you should be sitting at table with each other. not him up in the front and you in the back! you guys have 2 children together! his family needs to accept you and respect the relationship that you guys have! obviously you are in love, your married and have children. if his family not accepting you is causing arguments thats not acceptable. he needs to grow up and stand up for your relationship, "stick up" for you. he shouldnt worry about what is family says. he is a grown man and if he loves you and you love him it shouldnt matter what his family thinks. tell him to stick up for your relationship and tell his family where its at.

if nothing works try something more serious to show you are serious.

i hope everything works out!

I agree with you he really needs to put his foot down and tell them that he is married to you and they need to include you if they are going to include them. He need to tell them to respect you and you family like you said. I think that they are not being fair. Have you always had a problem with them even when you were dating? Also have you asked them about it?

I would call it racism as all of his family are choosing to ignore you.

This is where he calls a family meeting and tells all that you are his wife and that the disrespect must stop or they can forget him too.

This is his family and he must handle it.

<<Am I blowing this up for nothing or should he be saying something to defend me and our marriage to his friends and family?>>

* He should DEFINITELY be sticking up for you! I think that if he DID stick up for you since day one, you wouldn't be having all these problems!

i think u should pray to God i know am soundin to religious but that is the only way

Your husband should be behind you. His family are racist.