Bisexual Bashing: what causes it?

annoyance.stereotypes.

its annoying and bad how it has been turned into a fad that gives it a bad image when there are people who are genuine and actually bisexual.the fad makes people hate the real ones.

its the whole fad connection that annoys me basically.

I've never understood how homosexuals can practice christianity when their religion calls their lifestyle a sin. As an atheist, I don't believe in "sin" I do believe in right and wrong, but not sin itself and I certainly see nothing wrong with simply being homosexual. If you are going to call the bible the inherent word of god then you should agree with everything presented in it, which hardly any christians do since the bible is full of some pretty sick stuff. I doubt even you follow all the rules in the bible so your point is somewhat moot. People will pick and choose what they want to believe and for some reason at this point in history it's all about homosexuality. Give it another 30-40 years and it will just be like the difference between today and pre-civil rights America. We will look back on gay stereotypes, etc. and be appalled that people were able to get away with such blatantly offensive things. Bottom line in my opinion-gay people are hurting no one, they shouldn't be forced to live a lie and be miserable for the sake of not going to a fictional place called hell

As I am sure you will find in the answers you obtain here, many people think we are attention seekers, greedy, confused, or "just trying to fit in". In all actuality, it is simply that we are attracted to both sexes. I have found that most people I speak to that have no frame of reference with dealing with a bisexual woman are intimidated by the idea of someone that can (as my friend calls it) flip script depending on mood, surroundings, what have you. Being versatile, while having its own rewards, also has its short comings. One of which is that fact that we are often misunderstood by both the gay and straight community. As far as a personal experience, here's a good one for you....

I am a bisexual woman who is married to a straight man. This can be a complicated thing as I don't want to give up my sexuality woth woman. My husband understands this now (after 8 years) but, in the beginning it did cause a big mess. We were married about 6 months and I started seeing a woman that was gay. She had no interest in my husband but was willing to have a relationship with me knowing I was married. When I introduced the two my husband had a fit. Later, after talking with him for hours, be began to understand that my relationship with a woman had no effect on my feelings for him. Since then, I have been able to date and have long term relations with women without my husband feeling threatened.

I was positive that I was bisexual for a while but now I'm really unsure

I've never been in any relationship before so I guess that will help me confirm it

what I don't understand is how people are so sure

congrats to them, it's not that easy for me

and I'm not being "selfish"

it's just that feelings can be very confusing, and they should be explored (before you're married to someone though)

I do sometimes feel like a minority within a minority, because sometimes even gay people don't accept us, when we're like the perfect representation that being gay and straight is both natural and okay

maybe some just don't like us because we're like only half-gay, but really, I'm pretty sure if I was hanging out with a lesbian and we both saw a really hot chick walking down the street, we'd both be thinking the same thing :)

I'm bisexual, and many people think that we are just greedy or can not choose one sex to like.

Well it's the exact same as a Heterosexual or A Gay or Lesbian person, we feel how we feel, sure at times we might be with a women or a man but we like and love who we are attracted to, for emotional, or physical reasons that's who we are and no matter why we are bashed or not, people miss connect with us. But i have been bullied in the past both by straight women and lesbians for being bisexual, they say just choose and stop being so greedy and people can be awful in general.

Cheers

Insecurity, perhaps.. I would worry that my gf would leave me for the 'safety' of a straight relationship. I've met a one or two women that preferred women, but were scared of being labelled as anything other than heterosexual. They did everything they could (including, for one woman, marrying a man) to fit into their families and make sure that no one knew of their preferences. This included lying (being totally dishonest), being promiscuous, etc.

It was a bit sad, really.

On the other hand, I know many other bisexual women who are open and honest; these friends came into my life AFTER knowing the few women in the above paragraph and that DOES create trust.

My experience is that I was essentially excluded from the strong lesbian community where I used to live. (Which led to some comical situations when I'd run into someone I knew from back home elsewhere and they got of the 'shock' of finding out I'm bi. :-)

During the time I lived there, three of my closest lesbian friends began relationships with men and were ostracized from the community. It wasn't great. I was never bashed myself, probably because I was never seen as part of it.

When I was young and short-haired, I would sometimes go hang out in the small city nearby wearing stereotypical 'lesbian' clothes just for the affirmation of the "I see you, sister" nods. :-) That was as close as I ever managed to get being accepted in a community of more than 7 gay folk.

I also used to inadvertantly out myself because of my choice of language, like saying 'partner' instead of 'boyfriend'. That led to a couple of awkward situations when someone later met him and had been expecting a her. :-)

I seem to be far more attractive to men than women, so I appear to be straight. I have no problems telling people, but it doesn't come up all that often. Even when I used to be more proactive in that (oh the energy of youth), straight folk especially would forget most of the time.

The jist of it is that people make assumptions and going both ways is rarely one of them. GLBT who heard me say 'partner' would assume I was L, everyone who knew I dated men assumed I was straight, and with some folk it didn't matter how many times I told them otherwise.

Fortunately, I had a couple of experiences of living for a week or a year in situations where I was one of a very small number who were out. When there were only three of us, the L and G weren't going to quibble about being a B. That was enough to help me feel secure in my identity.

Its cause by the fact every straight highschool girl that there ever was is claiming that she is bisexual just to get more guys. The false bisexuals cause the bi-bashing.

bisexual bashing

Well, homophobes obviously aren't going to make an exception for bisexuals, and for less overtly homophobic people they are a more socially acceptable target

I think gay biphobia is grossly exaggerated, some people are just in love with the idea that gay culture is just as bad as straight culture when it comes to that sort of thing (and since as minorities we're held to a double standard, "just as bad as" equates to "far, far worse than")

but when it does exist its an attempt by people whose voice is often ignored to feel powerful and listened to by agreeing with the mainstream

Though I rated him down, I'm going to have to agree with Swampy, though probably in a less harsh way.

Being gay myself, I know how hard it is the find acceptance, though I know how much harder it is to be bi, as people don't understand it as much and just say, "They're just gay and in denial."

But as I say, you're going to have to settle down eventually, and the person you settle with (unless a hermaphrodite) is going to be boy or girl, regardless of species.

To answer the question, I think bisexual bashing comes from peoples' oblivious idea that bisexuals are "greedy."