This has me stumped!?

Hi there,

Don't feel insecure with Mooiepoots! ( Great name by the way).

She may never "mark you", but you might invite her to do that by "marking" her. I find my cats enjoy it when I rub my face against theirs. This might be just what may bring her around if you don't think she would feel that it is too intrusive, and that you have overstepped your boundaries.

You might start by rubbing her body with your face.. or even "sniffing her" <grin>

http://www.petside.com/petsideblog/2009/04/confess...

That she is playing with you and loves to be cuddled and petted, is really quite a statement about her trust. some cats just don't ever mark their humans.. so I really would not be that concerned. She obviously loves you.

Troublesniffer

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She has had a rough start, and may still not see you as her best friend yet. Give her time and she will definitely come around to you. Two things for you to try are these:

1) Pay attention to when she is calm and relaxed and is looking at you. If she slowly closes and opens her eyes while looking at you, then you do the same thing back. She is sending you the signal, by closing her eyes and opening them again, that she trusts you and is feeling very calm and relaxed in your presence. If you do the same back towards her then you are telling her the same thing.

2) When you have her in your arms and she is in a relaxed mood, touch your nose to hers. This is a 'kitty kiss' and is telling her that you are affectionate toward her. She may not do it back right away, but if you keep doing it you will convey to her that you love her. If you try rubbing your nose on her face she may understand that you are 'marking' her and will eventually want to do it back to tell you that you are now hers. Good luck.

Out of my 8 cats, only 3 of them mark me. The others like to be petted but they don't do the head rubbing, cheek marking, etc. I think the behavior is cat-specific and some find other ways to show affection or don't see the need for marking. It's great you got her to the point of enjoying home life. So many ferals don't get that chance. Love her for who she is. I don't see a problem.

She is older and possibly already set in her ways. It doesn't mean at all that she doesn't love you. Its just that maybe due to her upbringing she didn't learn this behaviour to approve you. I've worked with domestic cats all the way to wild cats and its all the same reactions....instinct can only go so far as what their mothers taught them. If she was removed from her mother too early she may not know that's a sign of affection to you. Try rubbing your face against her...she may get the idea.

My cat Damn-it I've had since he was born. He was never feral but he'd attack you if you got all kissy with him. So we stopped trying.

He'll be 3 in september.

Just recently he started marking me. I woke up the other day to a fuzzy face nudging me and I assumed it was my other cat. I about died of shcok when I opened my eyes and saw it was Damn-it.

He's been doing it eveytimei go to bed now. head butts me, crawls under the blanket and makes biscuits until he falls asleep lol

Some cats take longer.

If you rub her jawline and ears and top of her head, she figures you're doing the marking yourself and probably lets it go at that.

Like people cat's have different personalities as well, can't expect them all to love you the same or act the same when they do.

she just wont completely trust you yet.maybe she never will but your giving her a loving and safe home so be happy.imagine how your feel if and when she does trust you completely.

Give it more time, give her more love and attention.

NO. she doesn't think of u as her property, and she respects u. DON'T WORRY