Is it selfish to only miss someone on special occasions?

No...You cant remember them all the time and it's good that they are remembered on special occasions.

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No not selfish at all. I would think this can work as a defense mechanism as well. If you were to grieve her miss her every day of your life you would be miserable. However, since holidays and special occasions were the times when you spent the greatest amount of time with her this would make perfect sense. This would be the times/moments when you would remember the times spent together in the past. Those memories would come to the forefront. Don' t feel bad about it; perfectly natural and I feel our brains way of letting us live life without tremendous pain and constant grief. Memories are meant for times such as these. Enjoy your memories and don't feel too badly. I am sure she lived a long life and spent time with you when her time allowed it.

NO!

It is natural. My mother has been dead for about four years now. I dont think about her all the time because I have a family and work to think about, and doing that would mean I would never get anything done, but I still miss the special days because it just reminds me more strongly that I will never hear her laugh or joke with me again.

My mother is in a safe and wonderful place now. It is me that is still struggling on Earth...

Okay Atheists, She is resting in the ground, but he doesn't have the hell of time that we have now, does she?

Okay Christians, she is in heaven, and I am in Hell.

Okay Buddists. She is someone different, and has no clue as to who I am, She still doesn't care when I miss her, does she?

So no matter what your beliefs, it is you that misses her when it hits you strong. She doesn't have the same feelings because she is in heaven, she is sleeping in the ground, or she is someone completely different!

Shane

That was the only time you saw her, why would you miss her at other times. Depending on the distance it may be selfish to never have seen her or thought about her at other times, but not selfish to not think of her when you wouldn't have normally been seeing her. Look at it this way, at least you still think of her from time to time.

No. Life goes on after a loved one dies, so it's the special occasions that remind us most of those we've lost. When you get to be my age you can't go around dwelling on the friends and family you've lost and missing them or it would consume your life. What you're experiencing is perfectly normal.

No. It is normal to go days or months without mourning someone. It is good to think about someone from time to time such as you are doing, but different people handle death in different ways. There is no right way and no wrong way.

No it's not selfish, it's always the same. it's when the family gets together, you start to notice who is there and who isn't. As long as you remember her, that's the main thing, she'll never be dead as long as someone remembers her.

It is kinda selfish but totally natural too. I am a widow and I must admit that I miss my husband and think about him more around those special occasions. We are not worrying about our lost loved ones, just wanting to have them with us so ultimately yes, it's selfish

Nah dude just loving a person mon!

no /its life/she will know that she is in your heart and wouldnt want you to feel selfish that you dont think of her all the time