Is it alright for my husband....?

Have you told him nicely, you may get a better response if you use her name instead of kid. He may not even realize he is doing it. It would bother me also and I am not pregnant, being pregnant it is probably harder and you are all overwhelmed right now with emotions with him being home (him included). Just try to remain calm and give them some time to bond. You also need to point out to him that yelling is not the way to go about getting a 2 yr olds attention especially if she does not really know him yet. I wish you the best of luck. I know if I talk to my husband when we are alone (even if its just in bed at night) he is a lot more responsive than if I try to address it in the moment it is happening.

Edit: He should never ever call her stupid, maybe he should check into counseling to be able to deal with the things that are bothering him.

Edit: My husband is horrible at communication but if I email him he says (writes) more than he would face to face. Maybe write him a letter or email if you can do that. He is more responsive and neither of us can get defensive because the other is not there. And forget these people who say quit having kids, good god it happens unplanned and with him just getting back from the serving our country people need to be a little more understanding. Not that it excuses his behavior but none of us know what it is like for him right now either.

I often refer to my son as "the boy". Just a little nickname I started using a long time ago and it has stuck so far. Of course when I want to get his attention I say his real name, and I only say that when talking about him, not to him.

Ah, yes, he hasn't had much chance to bond with her, and now you are pregnant again, so all this is crashing down on him. It really would have been best to postpone parenthood until he was home.

You didn't say how long he's been home, so my advice is to give it time and let this bonding happen on it's own merits..you know..like your bond with the child happened on it's own merits.

Might I ask why we got pregnant again if questioning his parenting skills? Don't have a third one with him if this doesn't change.

He could be saying it out of love, a lot of parents use nicknames for kids out of love, we call my 8 year old brother Merdith when he's scared, or Muffin when he is hurt (not like crying hurt, little things) and we do it because we love him. Where not a** holes or anything, if its his child and not a different father 99% of me says he's doing it out of love. Hope I helped.

No. It's not alright. That can be confusing for a 2 year old.

Your husband needs to take anger management classes... Pronto.

doesnt sound good to me.. but everyone is different. ask him...? see whats causing him to call ur little girl like that? if it was me i'll hit him across his head w/ the mop, but thats just me

This is not ok. You should start calling him "dude" and show him how bad it feels.

he sounds like a douche, leave him