DOES IT REALLY MAKE ME A LESBIAN?

i think your more on the lesbian side.. so i wouldnt consider you a bi sexual.. because if you get pleasure out of girls.... and you dont feel anything when you have sex with your husband... then your a lesbiand and not bi...

the whole point of being sex is to get enjoyment out of it and to share love and companionship.. but if you cant do that with the opposite sex then.. but you enjoy it with the girls then i dont think or understand how you are bi sexual.. becuase to be bi-sexual both male and female can turn you on... but in your case only women turn you on...

Ok,

People are under the impression that sexual orientation JUST HAPPENS!

Sexual orientation, turn ons and turn offs, what excites us and what dampens us is a product of our choices and experiences.

For instance, you meet a really strong, powerful man.

If your last boyfriend was physically abusive, strong and powerful might be a turn off. Or, perhaps, if he was a gentle giant, his strength would be a big turn on because you'd feel protected against other men.

But regardless, your experiences and how you choose to let the affect you is what makes up your sexual preferences.

Now...you decided, for whatever reason, to start pursuing women. That was a choice. It led to further experiences that strengthened your attraction to women.

And you CHOSE to look at sex with your husband as more of a chore than a pleasure.

So the only person who can tell you you're a lesbian or bisexual or whatever is YOU.

You were the one who took the steps. You picked the crossroads. You followed the sign posts.

So you tell me....what are you exactly?

And is that what you want to be?

Good Luck!

Lesbian is a word in the English language to describe sexual and romantic desire between females. The word may be used as a noun, to refer to women who identify themselves or who are characterized by others as having the primary attribute of female homosexuality, or as an adjective, to describe characteristics of an object or activity related to female same-sex desire. People who have a bisexual orientation can experience sexual, emotional, and affectional attraction to both their own sex and the opposite sex. If you do not enjoy male as partner then you are lesbian, if you enjoy male and female as partners you are bi.

Sounds kinda like me, although I don't have a gf, I know that I could have a relationship w/ either gender. It sounds like the sexual attraction is gone from your current hetero relationship, tho. I don't think it makes you a lesbian unless you swear off men completely

Maybe its the sight of the penis being attached to a vagina thats disturbing to you. It would be for me but since you get more enjoyment from your girlfriend I would think that you were a lesbian.

I would say that the scale is tipping toward lesbian if having sex with your husband isn't doing it for you.

You are showing a real preference to women. Guess that makes you lesbian.

it means you lost the love you had for your hubby and now u r just going through the motions.

So you aren't really married but are a troll or young and unsure...?

yup ur gay, u just figured it out a little late. It happens