Is it appropriate to ask your 20 year old son to delete off his facebook list a relative who is a total jerk?

Give your son a choice. Tell him that you just don't feel you can keep communicating with him on Facebook if she is included. Tell him that you are willing to delete your account if he doesn't want to delete her. Chances are he really doesn't care.

However, the way Facebook is interlinked, she can get access to your page, or to his, by linking in with someone to whom you or he are linked (depending upon your security settings). So don't assume this will end the situation.

No, if your son has any sense he should see what she is doing and act appropriately. It is his facebook so it is absolutely not appropriate to ask/expect him to delete her. HOWEVER, that doesn't mean you can't ask. You do have to think about how your son would react, and if he hasn't already taken the initiative you'd wonder why.

I don't think there was any need to write almost 3 full paragraphs detailing how nasty this woman is, whatever, it doesn't really matter.

People (you) are allowed to cut off contact with whoever you want, no questions asked. If your son still has a relationship with her though.. nothing can or should be done.

The real question is why are you so obsessed with her? You have serious serious issues, it almost sounds like you are jealous of her somehow. And I am wondering why you cannot bear to see her name around facebook when she presumably has no access to your personal page.

If you delete your account or cut off contact with your son (on Facebook) you are doing 2 things. Letting this woman you hate control you, and taking your anger over this woman out on your son.

In short, you are causing all the problems yourself.

Just have a talk with your son. I don't know what you mean by 'acts worse' but if she is such a lunatic that you can't ignore her then simply get a restraining order. I find it really odd that she is so unbelievably bad and you are the only sole person who is noticing it or unable to deal with her.

If she is doing something wrong, stirring stuff up via facebook, why can't you just point it out to your son?

You can always ask anything ,

But as an adult , it will be his choice of what to do .

And do Not be surprised if he is not as hypersensitive as you .

After all , it is YOU getting all bent out of shape over an internet site ,

Not even live & in person encounters .

Feel free to expose any lies that may be perpetrating but so far your language just suggests You might be the diva .

good luck

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It really sounds like this relative of yours is not the nicest person on the block! But, my opinion is to just tell your son ASAP to delete that relative off of facebook.

I mean, your number 1 priority is YOUR family, and ensuring their safety. If this relative of yours is causing so many problems then do what's best and delete them.

Your son is an adult. If this person is as bad as you say, it won't take him long to figure it out for himself.

***** burn in hell. You dont tell a 20 ******* year old man who he can or cant be friends with.

that annoying person may be just annoying for you. let your son decide he is 20. don't let being a parent dictate what he likes or avoid.

You can send him private messages on facebook, you know.

is it that serious its facebook....

myspace is better tell him to go there and you guys ccan be friends with no one knowing....