Please help me understand. Why would anyone get a 13th tattoo knowing it hurts his wife & child?

This question made me laugh. Do you feel better after giving your little speech? My brother in law served in Iraq, was shot in Iraq and is now home, thank God. But he had tattoos already and on two of his leaves he got more. The military was well aware of his tattoos and seemed to not care a bit. I don't know if you have the full story on why this person was discharged. Maybe you should talk to the source rather than venting on YahooAnswers. How can we possibly help this situation?

I am glad that you used this forum to vent your frustration, and I hope that by writing it and sending it out, that you received some therapeutic benefit from doing so.

But, there is no way that we can explain this behavior.

All that I can say, is that some people have a difficult time growing up, and some people never do. They can never understand why they should do this or do that, or take on the responsibilities of life and adulthood, and the results of their own actions. They remain perpetual 6 year olds. They want what they want, when they want it. They are not doing anything because of anything or anyone else. They do not make the connections that you do, that doing this thing, deprives others of that thing. They will not see it. They don't get it. They may never get it.

It has nothing to do with tattoos. I am sure of that. It could be anything with the same base story behind it.

I can only say to you, that the sooner you can redirect your frustration the better, because only you will be harmed by it. You need to let your expectations go. He will never be the person that you want him to be. He is who he is. And more than likely, people will be looking out for him, mopping up after him, working hard to take care of what he should be taking care of, etc. his whole life. It is possible that by the time he realizes (if ever) what effect he has had on others, and the hardships that he has caused by his actions or lack of actions, ... by that time, if he makes a turn around, .. he will be resented to such a degree, that no one will appreciate any good that he does to compensate for the past. Unless he makes an incredible effort, and truly means it and understands the feelings of others, he could be very lonely as he ages.

Sorry, but I can be of no help to you, or the new pregnant wife, or the babies, or 'the kid'. All I can say is that you need to accept things as they are, and everyone needs to look out for themselves, and never count on him for anything. Then if he comes through occasionally, it will be a bonus.

My sister is 'crazy', .. certifiable. No matter how much I wish that she was otherwise, it aint gonna happen. I can't waste my time hoping that she will be different, because she won't. You need to think like this, or you will be in a world of agony.

Don't make excuses for him, let him take his own falls, it is his life, and the consequences of his actions are his. You do the best to live your life.

luck~

First off, the military does allow tattoos. You should read up on their new policies which have been in effect for quite some time. As long as it is not visible in uniform, offensive, gang related, or drug related you can enter the military. However, once you go to MEPS the first time, they fill out a tattoo form with all the tattoos you have and if it is questionable, they will ask you the meaning behind it. Now, that paperwork is filled out and done, but they tell you to not do anything else to yourself before shipping you out. If you get one, there is a ton more paperwork the recruiter has to do to make an addendum to the paperwork that meps has already done. What probably happened is he got the tattoos and did not tell the recruiter so the recruiter could fill out paperwork and when he got to basic, they discovered a discrepency with his paperwork. Or his new tattoos were offensive/gang related/or drug related. Plus, if the tattoo hasn't healed by the time he got there, he runs a huge risk of infection.

Now, I do like self-expression and I love tattoos, but there is a time and a place for everything. If he wanted 3 more tattoos, then his dumb butt could have waited until he was done with his training. Most of the people I know in the army with tattoos got them before being put on DEP (delayed entry-- the time between first meps trip and basic) or after all their training was done. I do not understand why someone would jeopardize their family by being selfish like that. To me (who loves tattoos), that is just stupid and selfish. Sounds like to me he really needed the military to grow the heck up. Family comes first.

Because he's stupid and honestly, the wife is stupid to stay with him. He doesn't care about his family and she MUST know this, so she should leave him for the sake of the children.

Spare me the 'she must love him' BS, yeah I loved my ex, still do and it hurts to not be with him every day but it hurt more when he was bashing my head into the floor. This guy is doing the same thing by bashing her and the children's financial stability against his own stupidity.

Guess what, not everyone who gets tattooed does so in a way that destroys their chance at a stable future. This one guy is a poor example of the modded community, I'm sure if it wasn't tattoos that screwed him it would have been something else.

I could decide to do what's first-rate for my household. Well, it isn't actual that the running lady can not maintain their kids so good. It all rely upon who we control our timing and provide it in a correct approach to the youngsters. Quantity of time does not topic, however how a lady is parenting does topic. If a lady ought to upgrade her household financially she will have to opt for paintings which might best aid the household's economic reputation within the gift area. I would not quit my career after marriage as it's my ardour. But, in long term, if my husband or my kids wish me to not opt for it, i would not, as all i wish is their happiness..:-) Edit : It isn't that running moms aren't caring for their kids good. May be, as you stated the time that they spent with their kids is much less. But, you will have to additionally see to the economic aspect, simply taking care does not depend the item you recommend. It additionally involves offering the youngsters a well schooling and all different matters. Now, yu knew how a lot the whole thing charges and i am simply telling if the economic situation needs, females will have to help the household financially and it's going to best aid them in long term.

i'll admit, it was irresponsible of him to get a tattoo when he knew he wasn't supposed to, but most men ARE immature. maybe the job in the tattoo shop will stick if he's doing what he loves. don't be mad at him...

try to be positive about the situation. at least he's not in the military anymore.

ignorance and selfishness. one would wonder why he would spend hunders of dollars on a tattoo instead or feeding/clothing/providing for his family. i jus feel sorry for the wife and children.

and no im not anti-tattoo, i have tats but if i knew i could feed my child or get a new tattoo, doesnt take much have comon sense and pick thee child.

This is a ridiculous question.

How would we be able to explain the actions of a total stranger?

this question you would have to ask that person. only they would be able to answer you