How can I help my child support paying friend who is very suicidal and very depressed right now?

Get him into counseling now!! Then find him a good lawyer. Find him a place to go where he feels like he can breathe, like maybe moving in with you. Finding a better job while you continue this case as long as possible will allow him to put some money in the bank. There are guidelines concerning how much is "fair" in child support and 90% sounds like an exaggeration.

The majority of child support issues hav nothing to do with the childs "best interests" and everything to do with punishing the other parent. Not to mention these greedy women who feel entitled to every dime you make because they had a child. To stop paying would only make his problems worse so, his options are 1. get into court ASAP and hope for a reduction or 2. Find a better job and stall court for as long as possible to build up a reserve.

What ever he does, he needs to be shown as a responsible parent. If a shared custody arrangement can be reached, his amount will drop sharply.

The greedy woman I was married to learned a hard lesson about how far I would go to make things fair. I spent a week in jail over child support and would do it again in a heartbeat. Not because I was behind but because I refused to pay the set amount. After she realized that I would rather sit in jail than give her half my paycheck and she had to find the money on her own, she saw it my way. For tha last 8 years I have had no court order to pay, my children are just fine and they have everything they need. If the ex needs money for a child related expense, she gets it.

As the others said, a good lawyer and some counseling would be helpful. However, little things can also make a huge difference. For stuff that will help right now, I'd make sure your friend knows he can depend on you for support (if you can, offer transportation to/from work, wherever). Also, showing up on a friend's doorstep with $20 or $30 worth of groceries during hard times makes a huge difference. Actually, if you have a key to his place, I'd sneak in and stock his fridge while he's at work. Hope things work out, and kudos for being a caring friend.

They can't take 90% of his net. According to the Federal Consumer Protection Act they can only withhold up to 65%. As far as the other issues go...he should get a 2nd job if he can't support himself and his child. Your focus is all messed up. It's no longer about who "cares about him". There is a baby in the picture, and the government, the child's mother, your friend, and yourself need to care more about this baby.

Not all women are like that. You should be ashamed of yourself for thinking like that.

Yes, a lot of girls care about money first, but that's not true for a lot of them.

Sorry I was no help, but I really don't know what to say about your friend other than that he should try to look for a second, part-time job if possible for more wages.

Get him to visit with his kid, she may not care about him but I'm sure the child would like to know their daddy.

And ask him if they did a DNA test, over 305 of the guys paying child support are not actually the daddy's.

And I hope you are not the only one that cares about him, because it is obvious by your absurd attitude that you are just as young and immature.

first of all, get him a lawyer, by law pay cannot be garnished for more than 20% of gross pay, second, get your friend to seek professional counseling for his suicidal tendencies