Asked Moms on Y/A for advice on what to feed my baby and got attacked, what gives?

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I'm a first time mom and my baby was just weaned off of formula. She just turned 13 months, and she's been off of formula for about 3 weeks. She still drinks pediasure( I know some of the mom's aren't fans but her doctor recommended it because she had acid reflux and was underweight, I'm currently trying to wean her off of it, as she's doing great now) She started eating solid foods around 6 months. Her doctor said that solid foods were great to give her but her nutritional needs were being met by the formula and pediasure combo ( I had to stop breastfeeding at 8 1/2 months, didn't want to stop that early but that's another story) Anyway for months she ate lots of healthy babyfood. She loved sweet potatoes, applesauce, baby yogurt, spinach, squash all of it and then right about the time that she turned one and started to be weaned from formula she was only interested in food that she could pick up and was refusing to eat jarred food or anything from a spoon. She loved cheese, bananas, oranges, vienna sausages, crackers, cereal those sort of things and she would eat a few bites of whatever my husband and I were eating. I tried to give her some steamed peas thinking they would be safe to eat and she wasn't interested. for a few weeks I wasn't giving her a lot of vegetables because as a rookie mom I was worried that she could choke, it was important to me that she was getting the proper nutrients and I felt that although she wasn't getting a lot of vegetables at the moment the pediasure would make up for the missing nutrients. It sounds dumb to me now, but I thought I was protecting her. The last couple of days I've done some research and have figured out that stewing green vegetables works great. She's also been eating lots of tomatoes and shredded carrots. Anyway I asked the moms on Y/A for advice on ideas of what to feed my 1 year old, or more specifically how to incorporate more vegetables and different foods into her diet, and I got reamed! Like I was an abusive parent or something! Over giving her things like bananas, oranges, cheese, crackers and vienna sausages and whatever we were eating. As a first time mom I was just going with the things my mother and my husbands mother told us that we loved at that age. It's kind of an awkward transition to go from a baby getting the majority of their nutrients and calories from a liquid diet to getting more and more calories from solid food. I didn't think I was failing that miserably. She was eating a ton of fruit and was getting dairy and carbs, just not a ton of vegetables and meats. I just feel like it's wrong to attack a new mom coming to the veterans for a little advice. My baby is healthy as a horse and I am a very concerned parent. I love her more than anything in the world, I want the best for her in every way and I try my best to be the perfect mom that she deserves. I don't think that us newbies deserve to get attacked when we make a mistake( since kids aren't born with a care and feeding manual) or ask for advice. Isn't asking advice what Y/A is all about? Did I really deserve to be attacked like that? Seriously?

Update:

Lea- I asked that question 4 times hoping for some good ideas or advice and I got attacked much more than I was given kind, helpful responses.

Update 2:

I actually wound up deleting 3 of my questions just because I was getting chastised more than I was getting help. The one that you saw I didn't delete just because I did get some kind and helpful answers that time.

Update 3:

Leslie- I posted that question 4 times and 3 times I deleted it because I got such mean responses. the question that you saw wasn't deleted because the answers were nice and trying to help.

Update 4:

LOL too much sodium for a midget! haha, so funny! And thanks for the advice!

I feel bad about giving them to her now, I should have taken a closer look at the label. But as soon as she turned one both my mom and my husbands mom were telling me 'You should give her vienna sausages! She'll love those! They're a great finger food protein' Both of our parents fed us those things as kids. I know that it sounds ignorant but I just considered them baby food because of what our parents said. LOL well you live you learn right? We survived.

Tina has Twins · Accepted Answer

Am I missing something?  I remember your question, because I answered it and I do not recall any of the answers being attacks in the slightest - here is a link:

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ann_YU5tOAdszQo3BmOYISzsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20100228122314AAUDkQd

Was it a different question?

Unfortunately, the nature of YA allows people to anonymously hide behind their computers and say whatever they want . . . do you deserve to be attacked?  NO!  But this is what happens sometimes in anonymous on-line forums.  You need to weed through the good and the bad and not let them get you down!

Best wishes!

E and S&#39;s mama · Answer

The question that Tina pointed out seems fine, I don't see any negative answers.  Just serious answers about your daughters diet.

To answer your original question:  Try steaming vegetables that naturally have a handle built into them such as fry/chip shaped.  My daughter still loves steamed broccoli florets.  She started around 7 months just nibbling off the soft part but now she eats the stem and all.  We also like to make homemade baked sweet potato fries.  If your daughter can handle banana she can handle any steamed or soft fruits.  Around 10 months my daughter could eat whole peaches or plums, just start a bite for her and then she'll gnaw away at the rest of it.  Once she gets the hang of eating more you can slowly introduce more difficult foods.  Really at 13 months she should be eating everything.  Instead of the sausages give her bits of cooked chicken or sliced turkey.  She can also eat fish or beef if you eat that sort of thing. Start her right away on using utensils as well, she should be using them with most meals at this point.  A good way to start with a spoon is stickier foods such as oatmeal or mashed beans.

Leslie · Answer

No, you shouldn't have gotten attacked. Unfortunately their are a few mothers everywhere that think they know it ALL and expect other mothers to as well. I think these kind of parents get a sick enjoyment out of telling other mothers that they are doing something wrong. All new mothers make mistakes, and you can bet that the parents one here reaming you made their share as well. You are also right in saying that the transition from breast-milk/formula is very awkward, and it 
takes a while to get used to it. Overall, it sounds like you care for your baby a great deal, and seem to be a good mother. Your child is not going to be harmed over not having vegetables for a week or so! Keep doing what you are doing and ignore the naysayers.

Edit: I just read your last Q and I wouldn't consider that an attack. Even the answerer who advised against the sausages and pedisure was helpful, and just stating her opinion politley. Try not to be so sensitive =0

Angela-mama to Dahlia Skye · Answer

I don't understand why some people are so mean on here- I mean we are all parents trying to do the best we can. And sometimes you don't know what you don't know- you thought you were doing right. And you asked questions! That's the only way to learn a different way. I just don't know. If I think I'm going to be judgemental, I try not to answer the question- I figure the mom will find her answer from someone else who is in a kinder frame of mind. 

It sounds like you are doing good. Enjoy that baby and ignore all the curmudgens on here.

gi am smart · Answer

Don't take it personal. I bet none of them told you about when they gave their kid too much sugar for the first time. The veinna sausages are a NO GO, though. Too much sodium for a midget. I used to shred cooked carrots, beets, squash and such. Take it and mix it with Biscuit's applesauce. Now they got fruit juice flavored applesauces, so it's easier, now. Don't let her run the show. Tell your boo, she can eat that AFTER a spoon of this. Once she sees there's no room for debate, she will cooperate. GOD BLESS.

Cameron&#39;s Momma · Answer

People are grumpy! There was no reason for you to get attacked.

I was interested in the fact that she wouldn't eat veggies and my son wouldn't either, so I tried him on CANNED veggies and he loves them, but for some reason doesn't like fresh or steamed veggies. He loves canned peas and carrots, beets, corn, and canned fruit as well as fresh fruit. Just make sure when you buy the canned things that the veggies are no sodium added and the fruit is 100% juice or unsweeted so its not a ton of extra sugar

? · Answer

Nope not one bit. Yahoo Answers is full of people who think they know it all, & feel like its their way or no way at all. I don't think you did anything wrong. As a parent you know whats best for your child, & giving her a variety of foods now will probably help her to not be such a picky eatter when shes older. Since everyone is differant, theres sooo many diverse opinions, lifestyles, morals... whatever. Some people think based upon pure stupidity & feel like their opinion should be expressed, as being assertive & knowing it all, when in reality, they just need to shut it! (: Don't be bothered by it hun, because you know your not a bad parent!

I mean, notice all the stupid thumbs downs some miserable, unhappy person did just because they can! LOL

sush77 · Answer

NO not at all. Being a first mother to be concerned is very natural. You should be innovative and never give same kind of food for a long time as baby can be bored of that.

Mel · Answer

you are doing really well so i dont understand why you are need Y/A for.you will almost always get conflicting opinions if you ask about weaning,feeding,breast or formula,etc.in every country are different recommendations so dont take every answer seriously.ask you child health provider instead.

Logan and Ella&#39;s Mommy · Answer

You'll find when it comes to any form of parenting advice on here there are going to be a lot of rabid women who are over opinionated and just want to yell at people. Don't take it personally, I think they do it for fun honestly. They don't have anything better to do...

Sounds to me like you are doing a good job. Just keep up what you are doing. :)

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