Please help... I can't take this anymore!?

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I'm sorry if you answered something similar to this before but if not heres the deal. I am 16, I have a job, (about to get another one), i live with a parent and step parent, my boyfriend and I have been together for 1 year and 4 months. I want a baby. My boyfriend and I have talked about it for a while and he says that when he comes back (he is leaving for 7 months) that maybe then we can try for one. If that was so then I would be going into my senior year of high school. But I really really want a child of my own! How can I hold myself over for at least another year or 2? Please help. I'm so sorry for being so complicated and so young with all of these maternal feelings. I feel ridiculous for asking this but thank you so much for answering I really appreciate it. I'm sorry again.

Update:

I am on the depo shot also.

Update 2:

My parents have gotten me a kitten 5 weeks old. and I take care of her very well I think. I feed her everyday and she sleeps in my room every night and goes with me everywhere in the house but i stil want a child.

Update 3:

3 year old little sister. and small cousins of the same age. plus even more kids ranging from 3 to 12 I have experience.

? · Accepted Answer

You could try getting a job babysitting. All sorts of people want a baysitter for an evening or a day. This way you get to play with babies and possibly earn a bit of cash as well.

Jenn · Answer

You live you lear. In all honestly I would begin to question "why" you want  ababy so bad that you cannot wait to an appropriate tim in your life? What void are you trying to feel? Because it is not typical for a 16 year old to want a baby as bad as you seem to. Go to your doctor and get a referral to a counselor/psychologist and talk about these issues. 

I had my 1st child when I was 24, married, college graduate, owned my own home, and still had so many difficulties.....Also, it strains a relationship which make syou have to work even harder to make things continue to work because once the baby come syou and your husband/boyfriend are no longer #1, the baby is. Fun, sex, friends, hobbies, school will all take a backburner. I always tell people they should finish any selfish needs they have before a baby comes into the picture. 

Talk to  a professional at school, hospital, etc.

Anonymous · Answer

At that age,you're a bit young to even be wanting to TRY for a baby. Most couples who are together when they're sixteen break up. Wait until you're married or in a really really long term live in relationship with someone before planning a baby.

? · Answer

well if you ever plan on having kids in the feature successfully, id get off the depo.

i was on the depo for less than a year and it caused me horrable problems a year after i was on it! i bled non stop after i got off it for about 3 months, then horrable irragular periods for 7 months,

and anyone else i know who has been on the depo will never reccomend it ither, one of my friends is infertile becasue of it her ovulation and cycles never returned this is now 3 years since her last injection!

as of right now i think ur just going threw a phase.
try to volunteer at a daycare or watching relitives kids over night,
you with def. think twice.
good luck

? · Answer

Did you know that people on the depo shot take over a year to conceive? So you may have a wait anyway

Carter&#39;s Mommy &lt;3 · Answer

I'm not going to lecture you on how you should not get pregnant so young, I know others will respond and do it for me. My advise, get a puppy. Maybe it's not that you want a baby, maybe you just want someone to love, love you back, and take care of. Plus, getting a puppy would help teach you what it's like to have to take care of someone else, and help you learn responsibility.

Anonymous · Answer

Continue taking care of the kitten. I'm 16, and am DAYS away from having my baby. pregnancy suuuucks.

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