Live with Parents or live Alone after a break up?

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Here's the deal:

I broke up with my fiancé about a month ago now. I moved-out and I was living at my dad's house (dad + step mom). Because my fiancé and I had sign a lease and we did not want to lose almost $3000, I decided to move back (keep in mind that my fiance was not abusive in any way, I moved out cuz he as not working for about a year and I did not see him try that hard to find a job).  Although my ex-fiance has not being able to find a job, he has paid his share of rent by selling some of his stuff and we are being civil which is good. Before we broke up I was taking care of EVERYTHING, though stressful, at least that showed me I can actually survive on my own. I only have 5 months left on my lease and my parents (again, dad+ stepmom) are expecting me to move back with them but I not sure what to do. for one part, the bills will decrease which is good and I will be able to save money, but I've been on my own for almost 5 years now and I love it, I made my mistakes but I learned from them, I have been able to mature quite a lot since I've been on my own and if I move back to my parents house I wont be able to be my own person, I wont be able to do so many projects I have, because I have to go back to their rules. I'm 25 years old and I'm finishing my AA in art and I plan to keep studying till I get at least my masters. I had so many things planned... I know I can do them if I live on my own

I want to start fresh and I think that I would be too dependent (Again) is I move back with my dad and his wife. They have been great but I also want to be on my own, try things, be my own person and make my own mistakes. what should I do? should I stay with my dad because of financial "stability" or should I live on my own, start fresh and move-on with my life ?

pearl · Accepted Answer

Live on your own. Your analysis is quite right. Living on your own helps you to grow. If finance is the constraint, find a friend or room mate to stay with you. That way the bills will be reduced and it will be fun.

cathy_14sweetie · Answer

If you really want to move out on your own and still live independently then I think its a great idea. Living with your parents is okay, too if you absolutely have to. It's perfectly okay to stay with them for a little while if you need to save up your money to move, but if you really need your independence then you should just get your own apartment. Not exactly sure about the whole living-with-your-ex-fiance thing, but if it works out between you until you can find your own place and as long as he stays your ex, then there shouldn't be any problems.

Erika · Answer

experts one million. hire unfastened 2. much less accountability 3. i might get to work out my kin conventional 4. I even have my own accountability and shelter myself CONS one million. by no ability incredibly getting any privateness 2. i does not have the capacity to do particular issues around my mom. 3. i might might desire to observe my language or get smacked interior the face (I even have poor mouth) 4. could no longer smoke ganja 5. i could no longer have a existence exterior of school and artwork 6. i might have my mom tellin me what to do, a thank you to dress, act, strengthen my daughter. could no longer handle it, too many cons, lol. I left domicile whilst i grew to become into 15 and by no ability grew to become returned, now my mom and that i are the ultimate of buddies..we use to hate eachother.

meanddave · Answer

get a apartment close 2 your parents--get 1 with lights and gas included--if you have 2--a nice little apartment with a little dog [so u wont feel lonely] --good luck

Jade M · Answer

Maintain your Independence, get your own place.

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